Single Appreciation Week-Day 1

//Single Appreciation Week-Day 1

If we have been Twitter friends for over 2 years you may have seen me use the hashtag #SingleAwarenessMoment more than once. Similarly, I would also refer February 14th as “Single Awareness Day” (aka S.A.D). These were terms that I used frequently, but last year God did a work in my life that led me to view my singleness differently. I was no longer sulking, asking, “why not me”, and considering myself as incomplete because I was not married. Instead, I began to see myself, and this stage of life I am in from God’s perspective. When I started doing that, my outlook changed! Don’t get me wrong…there are still moments when I struggle as a 30+, never-been-married woman. The difference is that I am learning how to bring those feelings to Lord in prayer, and He is teaching me trust Him. He is also showing me the many benefits of being single (like being able to be completely devoted to Jesus in my time and money, or having my bed, Rufus all to myself!)

Since God has ushered me into this new landscape of freedom, I have expressed my feelings about my contentment in several ways. First, I recorded a song for my future husband and put it on my latest album, Overcomer. I wrote “Praying for You” with Chris August (and just to be clear, even though he is single, we are just friends!) LOL!

“Praying for You” (along with 14 other tracks) is also on this free #SingleAppreciation Spotify playlist I created. Let me know what you think!

In addition to music, I have also written a few blogs about being single: Here is one I wrote about how I pray for my husband specifically, and here is another I wrote for my friend, Priscilla Shirer’s blog about how I am not only praying for “Mr. Right”, but also working to become “Mrs. Right”.

Last year I created a Galentines Event for single women. We had a blast! You can read some of the comments from those who attended or watched online here. I had hoped to make this an annual event and do it again this year, but my schedule got the better of me. I do hope to do some sort of live Ustream broadcast on Friday, though. I’ll be in Minnesota for the Hits Deep Tour that night, so it’ll depend on how good my wifi network will be there. Stay tuned…

In the meantime, I thought I would make this week #SingleAppreciationWeek for all of my single sisters and brothers out there. Be sure to check back for a new blog about being single each day this week leading up to “Single Appreciation Day”…oh wait! That still spells “S.A.D”. Hmm…let me work on that! After you read the blog, leave a comment for a chance to win prizes that day! Hey! If married folks can give gifts to celebrate love, so can we! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Each day I want to introduce you to one of my fabulous friends who is living life abundantly as a single woman…sorry fellas! I know you may want to hear from some guys, too. Try asking Chris August, Brandon Heath (even though he is engaged now), or Anthony Evans (I know what you’re thinking, but nope…we’re just friends, too!) to hook you up!

Today I want you to meet blogger, author, and all-around sassy sister, Mandy Hale, aka “The Single Woman“! I realize that “introduce” may not be the right word for many of you, considering she has almost 600 million Twitter followers and 700 million Facebook likes! Still, if you are not familiar with The Single Woman’s awesome platform she uses to inspire single women to live their best lives and to never, ever settle, you can thank me later.

Right now, Mandy is counting down “14 Reasons to Celebrate Your Singleness this Valentine’s Day” on her blog. Click here to read this (I love them all, but 11-14 are my favorites!)

Vday1After you read Mandy’s blog, come back here and leave a comment for a chance to win an ADVANCED copy of her new book, I’ve Never Been to Vegas, But My Luggage has: Mishaps and Miracles on the Road to Happily Ever After. It releases March 11, but Mandy will send the winner her book before you can even buy it! (And if you don’t win, don’t worry! You can pre-order your copy now. Just click on the title above! Or if you’re hankering for something now, I can highly recommend her last book, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass.)

To win, or simply to share your heart, leave a comment about some ways you can focus on the many forms of love God offers us, regardless of our marital status this Valentine’s Day. How are you feeling about this week? Are you content in your singleness, and if not, do you believe it is possible for you to be?

“Iโ€™ve learned by now to be quite content whatever my circumstances. Iโ€™m just as happy with little as with much, with much as with little. Iโ€™ve found the recipe for being happy whether full or hungry, hands full or hands empty. Whatever I have, wherever I am, I can make it through anything in the One who makes me who I am.”-Philippians 4:11-13 (MSG)

2014-02-09T23:10:45+00:00Feb 9th|Blog|270 Comments


  1. Angel S. February 10, 2014 at 1:22 am - Reply

    Love the idea for the week. I checked out Mandy’s blog. Great list! I am writing as a mom. Our son is in college and is really feeling the S.A.D. I will have many tings to offer him after reading yours and Mandy’s blog. He isn’tlooking for marriage yet, but also isn’t willing to date just so he isn’t alone. I believe I can see where God is working in his life and how He is pruning him. The best thing I can do for himis continue to pray for him!

  2. kathy February 10, 2014 at 7:35 am - Reply

    What beautiful words you’ve definately given me something to think about being single also. I do struggle with it but not in the sense that it’s because I’m single because I choose to be single after a serious of traumatic events but they are definately words to think about. This book would be well worth the read

  3. Mary Jones February 10, 2014 at 7:36 am - Reply

    Mandisa, I love everything about you. Thank you for this. Your words, your music, your faith…they always brighten my day!

  4. kathi February 10, 2014 at 7:37 am - Reply

    I love Mandy Hale. I’m totally content with being single until God tells me it’s time to make a change.

  5. Renee Miller February 10, 2014 at 7:42 am - Reply

    I am in love with everything you do in life and in songs ๐Ÿ™‚ My Grand daughter turned me on to you she is 12 years old and I pray she always knows her worth in this world. She deserves to be the happiest girl on earth, If you ever meet her you would think the same way as I. She is very brave to be a Christian in school and out.

  6. amanda February 10, 2014 at 7:42 am - Reply

    I was in a 5 yr relationship wit a man i loved so much. But something had happened to us we have struggled to make it right but nothing seemed to work. We looked towards god to help us and it seems I have found god in my heart and he didnt. God showed me he wasn’t right for me. Being single has been great I keep god in my life waiting til he brings me the man that is right for me.

  7. Lisa Tomes February 10, 2014 at 7:42 am - Reply

    I’m learning to enjoy my singleness with God. It’s not always easy. I’m a single again woman and miss the cuddling and help a companion can bring.

  8. Jamie McGrew February 10, 2014 at 7:42 am - Reply

    I love all of the 14 reasons, but my favorites are #1 and #14. Great reminders to be brave and sparkle!

  9. Silka Boone February 10, 2014 at 7:42 am - Reply

    Mandisa, What and inspiration you are to me and so many others!! you are a shining example of a godly womaN!! God bless you great woman of God!!

  10. Karen Peterson-Johnson February 10, 2014 at 7:43 am - Reply

    Im a 59 year old Christian single woman. Divorced twice..married 28 yearsthe first time and 4 years the second time.I’m actively involved in Celebrate Recovery@ my church.its a group that Saddleback church started for ” hurts, habits, and hangups..I help lead worship music there. .I do Zuma to your are a remarkable gifted woman.Thanks for sharing yourself..

  11. Linda February 10, 2014 at 7:43 am - Reply

    Mandisa, you are an inspiration to all single women. I have a new found attitude about being single for so long after reading your post and listening to your music. You are such a beautiful blessing in the lives of so many. Thank you!! <3.

  12. Sunshine Button February 10, 2014 at 7:44 am - Reply

    I love all the quotes, but 4 stands out- I walk MY path, make my own life and am able to focus on my life. Granted, as a single mom of 3 beautiful kids, its hard. But I’d rather raise them alone than make another mistake like their dad. I know that God has something wonderful planned for us!

  13. April Duncan February 10, 2014 at 7:44 am - Reply

    Dear Mandisa,
    I’m a single mom of two gorgeous daughters. They’re 15 and 20 and need a mom who will show them that YOU were given life by God to do many great things, and being someone’s girlfriend or wife is only part of it the plan. Not the ENTIRE plan. I urge them to identify themselves through God, as I am now trying to do after 20 years of marriage. God has shown me that as long as I keep my eyes on Him, that He will see me through any event, great or small. So I look at my life like this – no matter how much turbulence I experience, God has placed me in first class – complete safety and luxury. The plane will not fall out of the sky, He’s piloting it. I can rest easily in His grace and guidance, learning along the journey about who He wants me to become. Therefore, when the right man comes along, that man will have to ask the Lord for my heart, because my heart is wrapped up in Him. I am happy within Him. Always. God is good all the time. Blessings and love to you! ~ April

  14. Lisa Orsborn February 10, 2014 at 7:45 am - Reply

    Mandy’s 14 reasons to love my singleness this Valentine’s Day is exactly what I needed! I am a single, divorced woman and mom of 3 who I am trying to teach that I don’t NEED another person to marry right now. That I am ok with being single and it’s OK for them to be ok with me being single. I am teaching them through me how to love themselves and have a great relationship with God!

  15. Deborah Mekosky February 10, 2014 at 7:45 am - Reply

    I have been a widow for 14 long years. I tried the dating game. But man it was really lame. The Men I sought because my late husband said you should not be alone. The heart ache was miserable and finally I had courage enough to say STOP.

    Lonely? NO way. I have 4 beautiful grandsons, 3 wonderful sons, and two beautiful daughters in love. There are days that still feel empty without my husband. But there is a glimpse of him in each of my grandsons.

    So on valentines day I may not have a spouse, a boyfriend, or a male friend even. But I do have the joy of family, the love of a Savior, and a peace that can only come from the man upstairs.

    I am not saying NO to a new love. I am saying yes to the woman inside who has found a different kind of joy and a freedom that keeps me happy and not lifting up any rock looking for LOVE. It will find me when and if God ordains it. Otherwise, joy is found right here and now!

  16. Brenna Drakeford February 10, 2014 at 7:46 am - Reply

    You could change it to S.M.I.L.E. (Single and My Incredible Life is Exciting)

  17. Raenette Burke February 10, 2014 at 7:46 am - Reply

    I love the single comments. Especially number one and eleven to fourteen. They really speak to me. What a great inspiration.

  18. Sheila Allison February 10, 2014 at 7:47 am - Reply

    I think this is great inspiration for all the single folk, and widows and widowers out there.

  19. Stacy Holub-Thames February 10, 2014 at 7:47 am - Reply

    I want to love me before I can love We!

  20. Stephanie Chamberlain February 10, 2014 at 7:47 am - Reply

    Just like many people I am the lone single person in my group of married with children. For many years I struggled with insecurities as the married folks did stuff with other married couples. I often was left out. Then the children came along. It wasn’t easy but I realized I could spend time with all of my friends and their children a lot more bc I did not have obligations. So now “Aunt Stephanie” takes her show on the road to visit those sweet babies a lot more while giving their mommies and daddies some time to them selves if they want it. Without God guiding me I would still be wallowing in that miry pit of loneliness.

  21. Ambur February 10, 2014 at 7:47 am - Reply

    I used to struggle w/ singleness, but I have had a chance to watch some amazing godly couples and how their relationships are solid because of their relationships with God. I’ve also watched some couples who try and do it all in their own strength and how they have suffered. I’ve chosen to trust in God’s highest and best for my life, whether single or married. I believe right now I am in his highest and best for now and find peace in that.

  22. Deena.White February 10, 2014 at 7:48 am - Reply

    Thank You both Mandy and Mandisa for the honesty, the transparency and the encouragement you bring. I have been single for a year at the age of 45 that was a scary thing to face. What i have begun to discover is that God has blessed me with a rational mind, a strong will and the ability to do a million things i didnt know I could. I have also been able to reach out and help others through prayer and listening and my favorite part is that the drama and heartache of struggling to hold on to a relationship that need to be let go of took up so much of my time and energy that i was held captive to it. Now I am free to be the hands and feet of Jesus as He leads me to places I might never have noticed that I was needed. God bless you both!

  23. Pat Davis February 10, 2014 at 7:49 am - Reply

    Hey, I think this is a fabulous idea. Singles need encouragement. But, then again we are the bride of Christ, so have a great day!

  24. Leslie February 10, 2014 at 7:49 am - Reply

    God has me where He wants me to grow. I’m happier now being single again, then being married to someone who didn’t want to love me, but I knew that God always loves me no matter where I’m at, whether I’m single, dating or married. Thank you, Madisa for sharing. I thank God everyday for you music to minister to my heart, because I AM an Overcomer!

  25. Jennifer Shields February 10, 2014 at 7:50 am - Reply

    I am a single mom of three boys through adoption. I am usually content with singleness because I have been blessed with my children. Also my middle son explained I was to tall to get married:). Thanks for this dun and single affirming blog.

  26. Sheridien February 10, 2014 at 7:50 am - Reply

    Every time when Valentine’s Day arrive I spend the day meditating on God’s love for me. I have never been in any relationship but I trust God for my Mr. Right even as He(God) continuously work in to make me somebody’s Mrs Right. While I patiently wait upon the LORD, I take this time as a single lady to encourage fellow single ladies on how they can feel complete even in this state. God’s word encourages me to be content always and that is what I do. I have learnt to be thankful and to have the joy of the LORD which gives me strength to carry on…Nehemiah 8:10

  27. Kayleen Hilyer February 10, 2014 at 7:50 am - Reply

    Those were very loaded reasons to celebrate singleness. I need to pray though every one. I had to laugh when she said “Valentine’s Day is not an equal opportunity holiday”! It is true though.

  28. Karen February 10, 2014 at 7:50 am - Reply

    I’ve been quite ill for 10 years which has found me practically housebound, but by the healing power of God I am starting to be healed…Praise God! With this new lease on life, I would love to find a partner, Gods partner as I’m over being single. I would love a special Godly man to share my life with now that I’m feeling so much better :0) A copy of your book would really help me to be ok with my singleness & to wait in faith for God to provide the man He has set aside just for me. Many blessings to you xxx

  29. Karyn Rousseau February 10, 2014 at 7:51 am - Reply

    Thank you so much for the transparency. It is a pure blessing.

  30. Melinda Green February 10, 2014 at 7:52 am - Reply

    I am newly single after 13 years of marriage. The divorce was devastating to me. This blog comes at a time when I am trying to find my way to forgive and reminds me I have a new life as single and I must find my place to bloom. Thank you and God bless!

  31. Bre February 10, 2014 at 7:52 am - Reply

    I am so very encouraged as Valentine’s Day is approaching. I am in love with where God has me right now. There are times when being alone turns into loneliness or times when it is really cold and I just want someone to pump my gas or shovel my drive way, but overall I am learning and loving being Complete in Christ! I am living life as a whole woman in Christ. I am not sad this Valentine’s Day. I am very GLAD. God’s love – His perfect unfailing love has made me glad! I am a Gloriously Loved and Adored Daughter of God!!!

  32. JAGUA N. O'NEL February 10, 2014 at 7:52 am - Reply

    Great advice. Loving self is the most important one. We show others how to treat and love us by how we treat and love ourselves!

  33. Andrea February 10, 2014 at 7:53 am - Reply

    The older I get the harder it is to be single! When all your peers have gotten married and had kids and you spent your life trying to survive alone you realize just how blessed your married friends are, yet they will never understand how totally dependent on God you must become when you have no one else.

  34. gina kenndy February 10, 2014 at 7:53 am - Reply

    I really like what she shared , being single is worth celebrating thanks for that

  35. Sarah Thomas February 10, 2014 at 7:54 am - Reply

    This gives me a whole new perspective on how I was looking at Valentines day…Im a single mom and have now been single for 3 years now, and he left me the week after valentines day so I have had a bitterness for the day since them. Love how you are putting a positive spin on the holiday. Thanks for allowing me to see how God can use me and my singleness to further his works. Thanks again.

  36. Mary Eilers February 10, 2014 at 7:54 am - Reply

    Love the quotes. Also plan to subscribe to Mandy’s page.

  37. Stacey Monnin February 10, 2014 at 7:54 am - Reply

    Thank you so much for this! I look forward to purchasing one of these books when I can afford it! Until then, I loved the blog. I have been thinking about my singleness a lot lately. It can be tough doing it God’s way staying pure in body, mind and heart but what a blessing. I turned 50 in January and have come to an awareness and gratitude I didn’t have before about how God has protected me from the pain of divorce or being caught up in an unhealthy relationship. I do currently like someone at my church whom I have gotten to know through a study group and I’m grateful for his friendship. I feel like the more I trust God I can trust him with my heart in all things single, even overcoming that fear of my heart being engaged with a man. To God be the glory! Thanks again for this special week devoted to singles!

  38. Jaden February 10, 2014 at 7:55 am - Reply

    I use to really hate the fact that i am single but one day i came to conclusion that its good to be single! I need to take the time to gain a better relationship with god! God has perfect timing and god knows when i am suppose to find love! I have had the opportunity to see many people with strong godly marriages who not only love one another but make god the focus of their marriage and i would rather wait for my godly man and gods plans for me then push a relationship that is going to end badly and mainly where god is not my main focus! I love her books and would love to win this one!

  39. Tosha Wallen February 10, 2014 at 7:56 am - Reply

    I’m glad to get to read your blogs for this week! I’ve always hated Valentines Day because I’ve never had anyone to share it with. So I’ve dreaded this week since it turned February. But after reading your blog I know that I shouldn’t hate Valentines Day! I do believe that It is possible for me to be content in my singleness. Thank You for everything you have shared!

  40. Sonia Perez February 10, 2014 at 7:56 am - Reply

    I’ve been married 3 times and since my 3rd divorce, I feel that I’m not meant to be married. I have decided to let God put Mr. Right in my path when He feels it’s my time to be with somebody, I’m not looking anymore. I admit there are days that I wish I just had a companion, someone to go to a movie with or even a dinner date…especially around Valentines day. I find myself saying “another year without a valentine”, but then I snap out if it and start weighing the pros and cons of being single. After 3 failed marriages, I thought I was the problem, but I realized that I’m not the problem. It’s the type of men I fell for….insecure, controlling, and immature. I pray to God that I wish to have someone compatible to me in a lot of ways. I know I can be a good wife, I just need a good husband. I thank God everyday for giving me the strength to be the strong woman I am and the wisdom of knowing better than to fall in love with the wrong person. I know God has the right man for me and I will continue to be patient and wait for him. So in the meantime, I enjoy my happy, single life and devote my time to my children and grandchildren, but most importantly…devote my time to my God.

  41. Kandace Adsitt February 10, 2014 at 7:56 am - Reply

    I used to hate being single, because all my friends always had someone. Im still working on being content but in some ways Im realizing it for the blessing it can sometimes be. It frees me up to pour my entire being into loving My God, My Father who is the Most important and who is supposed to be number 1 anyway!! Love you Disa!Thanks for always keeping it real!

  42. Cora Joyce February 10, 2014 at 7:58 am - Reply

    I’m in the process of being okay with being single and con get a little sad when I see al the happy couples but I know God has the perfect plan for me and the man I will marry someday

  43. Deborah K February 10, 2014 at 7:58 am - Reply

    Although I have been married, I have also been divorced. I have learned over the last years to appreciate my singleness. I raised my children, attended and worked in church, read a lot of books, and had real female friends for the first time in my life. It’s rather nice to wake up and think “hmmm, the bookstore sounds good” and just go. ๐Ÿ™‚

  44. Jaden ann February 10, 2014 at 7:59 am - Reply

    I will be happy with whatever god has in store for my future! Whether he sees me in a god centered marriage or single and sharing god’s word! I will be content in whatever path he chooses for me! I am obsessed with the verse Jeremiah 29:11 and i choose to follow that verse and use it as a motivation to be content and know god has plans for me!

  45. Jeremy February 10, 2014 at 7:59 am - Reply

    For a while I detested my singleness and Valentines Day in general. I used to be married until mental illness claimed my wife and I had to get my two beautiful kids out of that situation. Even though I have my children 24/7, I still would feel alone especially on Valentines Day. God has changed my perspective from one of mourning the loss of my wife to the one of a reminder that love is out there. As God reminds us in scripture that HE KNOWS the plans HE HAS for US plans not to harm us but to make us prosper and that especially comes in with finding a mate. God has taught me to sit back and relax. To enjoy the journey. To seek after Him and fall more in love with Him and everything else will take care of itself. I heard this quote once and it is one that defines my search for a mate now “I want to fall so in love with Jesus that I find my mate as shewill be right next to me doing the same.” God bless.

  46. Paula February 10, 2014 at 8:00 am - Reply

    Singleness is a good thing. I can focus on my relationship with God without being distracted.

  47. Misty Kenealy February 10, 2014 at 8:02 am - Reply

    I could take the time and energy and put it all in a relationship
    that may or may not fail, or celebrate being a single, giving, loving,
    Christian mother and knowing by focusing on what’s important that
    God will NEVER let me fail.
    I don’t need a relationship with anyone to validate my self worth. I’ve
    already been promised that my life has a purpose.

    Matthew 5:13-16
    English Standard Version (ESV)
    Salt and Light

    13 โ€œYou are the salt of the earth, but if salt has lost its taste, how shall its saltiness be restored? It is no longer good for anything except to be thrown out and trampled under people’s feet.

    14 โ€œYou are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that[a] they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.

  48. Loretta February 10, 2014 at 8:05 am - Reply

    I am trusting in God’s timing. I know when I am where I need to be, if I am meant to be with someone, then God will present the opportunity. I don’t want to jump into a wrong relationship just to say I am not single, I am trusting God because I want the best.

  49. Raena Graham February 10, 2014 at 8:05 am - Reply

    I love you for this Mandisaโ™ก. Encouragement during this time of singleness is so important and needed. The desire to be married in a relationship and have a family is very important to me but wait in on God is more important. Love you b to pieces and so b proud of you. #FISK4ever

  50. Kara W February 10, 2014 at 8:06 am - Reply

    You continuously inspire me. Valentine’s Day has always filled me with such depression and angst, it puts so much pressure on me to be out there looking for a man. Now I am a single mom of two children, I’ve never been married and I could care less about looking for a man. All that ever did is cause me grief. I know he is out there somewhere, but I need to get MY life right before God is going to give me the privilege and responsibility of marriage. I have to show that I am ready!!

    God gives us new challenges and responsibilities when HE thinks we are ready for them. Some came a little sooner than others, but my children are the love of my life and I know God is bringing me good out of a situation that could have been really bad!

    I am going to spend this week appreciating all the good things about staying single and be grateful for what I DO have and not let it get me down this year. (Friday is kid movie night and I am looking forward to some cartoons with my precious babies!!) When I am stressed I recall my two favorite scriptures, John 16:33 and Psalms 40 (the whole chapter).

  51. Hope Malcolm February 10, 2014 at 8:06 am - Reply

    I do struggle with singleness, but it is so great to know that God is always there and that He is the only one that can fill those empty spots. The biggest struggle right now is my Dad being sick right now and knowing that the Lord could take Him at any time. He is improving, but I knew I had to give him to God and let him go. Since he is the main man in my life, since there is no husband, it can get a little tough. I have to keep reminding myself how much God has done for me and how He continues to take care of me. I am never alone!

  52. Patricia Worthington February 10, 2014 at 8:08 am - Reply

    Being single when surrounded by couples can be such a challenge emotionally. When these moments start to get me down I go to the Lord in prayer and it always makes me feel better. I also do just as you suggested above and remind myself of the blessings that come with being single instead of focusing on what I’m missing out on. This is easier said then done when your family continually bring up the subject on a regular basis, but we ask know they mean well.

  53. Alicia February 10, 2014 at 8:08 am - Reply

    Thank you!!! I too am 30 plus and never married. I struggle often being single amongst my many married friends…that said I also have a lot of single friends as well my own age! I pray for God to bring me my perfect Mr. Right in his time. It is getting easier! Thank you for your kind and encouraging words!!! God Bless

  54. Louise February 10, 2014 at 8:10 am - Reply

    I became a widow at the age of 26 with a 2 yr old daughter. I stayed single for 4 years. Toward the end of that time I drifted away from god during a church split. Ended up in a 6 yr relationship that was torture. I did gain a handsome son from this that I wouldn’t take the world for. However I have turned my life around being back in church for 3 yrs and trying to build my relationship with god. Because of circumstances out of my control I had to completely end the relationship. My children and I have grown closer to god this last yr. I am proud of my singleness. Because I am not alone. I thank god everyday for his mercy and for never leaving me. A relationship that doesn’t have god in the foundation will not with stand. I am right where god wants me to be. He will be my guide. He will direct my paths.

  55. Ruth February 10, 2014 at 8:10 am - Reply

    Thank you! As an over 50 always single, I love the God can use me in so many ways my married friends cannot. When people ask me if I have any kids my response is usually yea, about 70 of them! ( I am one of the youth leaders at my church – you met a bus load of them a week ago when you made a bus brake-down into a memorable experience! (unfortunately I was not on the bus))

  56. Rachel February 10, 2014 at 8:10 am - Reply

    I used to struggle with being single, and for brief moments, still do. I have to remind myself that God has laid things on my heart and that being in a relationship (especially with the particular guys who have asked) wouldn’t work out unless they choose to join me on my journey, which I don’t think they would. God is not only saving me from unnecessary heartache, but any young man that isn’t the right fit for me, as well. God has big plans for me and so I will sit and wait and see what He has in store for me. He’ll bring the right one along when He sees fit, and I know it’ll be someone who not only be willing to join me in my journey in life, but will help me grow in God, and even keep me grounded when I make no sense. (And in that sense, I’m sure God is working on my future someone’s patience right now, he’ll definitely need it! lol) I’m not going to fret over being single anymore like I have in the past. I know God has a reason for making me wait, and so I’ll enjoy my wait like I should!

  57. Tia February 10, 2014 at 8:10 am - Reply

    Thanks! This describes me perfectly!

  58. Carolyn February 10, 2014 at 8:11 am - Reply

    I’m single–again–being divorced (7 years now) after 28 years of marriage. So, I’ve seen both sides and there are things about being married that I really, really miss. There are also things I am so very grateful I don’t have in my life anymore (not bashing here). I have learned to be content in my solitude and to count it all joy, for I never know what new adventure God has in store for me. But whatever it is, it will be wonderful because He has ordained it and His mercies are truly new every morning!

  59. Firely February 10, 2014 at 8:12 am - Reply

    Thanks Mandissa, God bless you!!!

  60. Becky February 10, 2014 at 8:13 am - Reply

    Thank you for those words of encouragement! I’m 52 and never been married. I’m a preschool and Children’s minister. I have struggled at times with being single, especially when I go to weddings! ( folks always think that I need to catch the bouquet so I can be the next to get married!). I was recently asked by a pastor of a church where I had applied for a ministry position why I had never married. I had never been asked that specifically before donut took me by surprise! This is what God’s plan is for my life and I’m happy with where he has me at the moment!
    This year I’m celebrating valentine’s day a little different by cooking a special meal for about 20 couples at my church! I’m excited about Spending time with some special people!

  61. Vianey February 10, 2014 at 8:16 am - Reply

    As a young single lady who is close to 30, I have mixed feelings and thoughts over Valentines Day. See I like many other people out there I was born February 14. My family and friends always celebrate my birthday with a meal,cake, and gifts. I think that alone has always made that day bearable. I often wondered why I was born on this day. It is ironic that being born on Valentine’s Day I am loveless and still single or at least that is how I use to feel. I know now that I have the best love which is God’s love. I know he loves me for me and that he will never forsake me. So to all the single beautiful people out there remember you are loved.

  62. Alicia February 10, 2014 at 8:16 am - Reply

    I still struggle from time to time with loneliness and fear that I’ll never meet someone, but I know that my relationship with God would not be what it is if it were not for my singleness and that is definately something the to thankful for.

  63. Dinecia February 10, 2014 at 8:19 am - Reply

    This is PHENOMENAL! I was just talking to the Lord about starting a single ladies bible study for these very reasons. There is strength in numbers and we need each other to grow and thrive as women of God. Men don’t make us, Jesus does. For the last year I have been so content in my singleness. Each day I fall deeper in Love with the Lord. I honestly, trust His timing not only because it’s perfect but, because it produces the best results.

    Praying for you Mandisa! You are such an encouragement.


  64. Shelley Erwin February 10, 2014 at 8:20 am - Reply

    I struggle with being a single woman. I tell everyone I am happy and enjoy being single, but in reality I am very sad and wish I had someone to share my life with. I tell myself it’s easier being single, but some days I’m not so sure. I believe God is in control, He’s created a wonderful and beautiful future for me. As long as I have the faith, hope and courage to remain on the path He created, I will find true happiness, whether that means remaining single or finding my true love.

  65. tabetha greene February 10, 2014 at 8:20 am - Reply

    I used to hate being single, now im just waiting on Mr. Right to come along.. Mr. Right has to be a Man of God for me.. ๐Ÿ™‚

  66. Monica Osborne February 10, 2014 at 8:21 am - Reply

    To be totally honest, I am still struggling with Singleness. After 6 years of being alone, I am growing more content. That just scares me a bit ! Thank you for your words of encouragement. ๐Ÿ™‚

  67. Jana February 10, 2014 at 8:21 am - Reply

    Happy Single Appreciation week! I love that! I’ve been single about 8 years now, I have 3 kids too. ๐Ÿ™‚ I never thought I could be so happy and content in this stage of my life. I may not have a husband to lean on, but I do have Jesus to turn to! My faith is stronger in Him, and I have so much peace. One thing singles can do to bless couples on valentines day is to offer to watch their kids so they can have ‘a night off’ to enjoy each other! โค๏ธ

  68. Christie February 10, 2014 at 8:21 am - Reply

    Thanks for all the encouragement! As a 30+ single woman living in a world of married friends. I know God has each of us who seek His will exactly where he wants us, but I still struggle with being comfortable in that place.
    Just call me a work in progress. ๐Ÿ™‚

  69. Barb Meyer February 10, 2014 at 8:25 am - Reply

    This is my first “single” year. I have been married for 28 1/2 years and my husband has walked out of our marriage and decided he doesn’t want me. The worst thing is that I have found out that he has cheated on me with several women….probably more than the ones that I know. The hurt of losing him was hard enough..but knowing he has been with even one other was just crushing. I hurt so bad right now and there have been days I wasn’t sure how I would get through. I am so thankful that I know God and have such wonderful support from my family, church and friends! The hurt goes so incredibly deep.
    I thank YOU Mandisa for the love you show everyone..but for this week on Valentines day…to all of us singles! Your songs have gotten me through some very tough days lately! Sending a big hug and love to you…especially on Friday, Feb. 14th!!

  70. Alicia Anderson February 10, 2014 at 8:30 am - Reply

    The contentment that God has given me has been incredible!! I’ve been a single mom going on 12 yrs and I wouldn’t want it any other way. I have an great relationship with my kids because of being the only parent. I enjoy being single right now!!

  71. Linda Payne February 10, 2014 at 8:31 am - Reply

    Thanking God for contentment but praying for my future mate.

  72. Stephanie Bennett February 10, 2014 at 8:31 am - Reply

    I have multiple chronic illnesses and am not able to leave the house much and feel like I will never meet anyone. But I know now, that when God is ready for me to meet the right man I will. I know right now I need to be working on myself and getting closer to God. I love this blog post! Definitely sharing. I can’t wait until this book comes out. I will definitely have to read it.

  73. William Kirby February 10, 2014 at 8:32 am - Reply

    I have been single basically my whole life. I am 22 years old and I am waiting for the right woman. For years I would get so down and depressed every Valentines day and think “Why do I have to be like this?” I have moved around a lot in my life time ands that has also caused a strain on relationships, and there have been women who liked me me but it has only been for the moment, they liked me for one reason, I am saving myself for marriage. And they saw it as a challenge. they never truly liked me for what I am which is a man of God. Without God in my life I would be lost! He protects me from all bad situations and loves me unconditionally! I believe he is waiting to send me the RIGHT woman. Amd he doesnt want me to settle. and he wants me to work on being closer to him which I am perfectly fine with ๐Ÿ™‚ I know who ever this woman t hat. God chooses for me, she will be my forever!

  74. Sara February 10, 2014 at 8:33 am - Reply

    I just turned 29 yesterday. I can’t say I am completely happy being single but overall I am glad of where I am today. There are good days and bad days but I know Jesus is beside me and in me thru each one.

  75. Crystal Collins February 10, 2014 at 8:35 am - Reply

    Love these reasons and they are so true. Through life being single we should ingrain this in our hearts. This year some friends and I who went through a divorce class together are meeting for dinner on Valentines Day to celebrate our singleness and not to be sad and mopey and to rebuild our lives in Christ!

  76. Carol Jones February 10, 2014 at 8:36 am - Reply

    I hadn’t even thought of Valentines Day yet. I am going to focus on the wonderful blessings God has bestowed on me. There are moments when I get down because I feel I don’t have someone to share my life with. Yet I am so blessed with amazing friendships!!! So this Valentines day I am going to spend it with God thanking him for all I have. Thank you Mandisa for being so real!!! love ya girl!!!

  77. Lydia D February 10, 2014 at 8:38 am - Reply

    I can honestly say I should have tried harder in my marriage, but hindsight is what it is. When I feel alone I try to turn to God to prevent the pity party from starting. I see so much divorce around me that I know being single..for so much better than putting myself in a momentarily satisfying relationship. I continue to pray that God make my future husband as obvious as possible…cause Lord knows it’s easy to be blinded by the false. God bless all on your journey…enjoy it!

  78. Kris February 10, 2014 at 8:40 am - Reply

    I like to look at Valentine’s day as the history of Saint Valentine. A man that was martyred for something he believed in which is love. I think Valentine’s day is silly not because I am single but because we should celebrate love everyday of the year. I celebrate the love of God each time I sit down and read his word, hear a song, or hear God speak into my life. So this Valentines day I decided to be a martyr. I decided to be the type of martyr described by this Jewish rabbi. “A great martyr is not someone with the courage to die for what he believes, but someone with the courage to live passionately for God every day of his life.”

  79. Marla Puckett February 10, 2014 at 8:41 am - Reply

    Great blog. I will soon be 52 and never married. I cannot wait for God to bring me my husband, but I can wait until we both are where God wants us to be in our walk with Him. At this time I enjoy being God’s hands and feet. My focus is on God.

    Mandisa, I think you should do a show with John Gray, a pastor at Lakewood in Houston. He has a great word for singles as he was 37 when he married.

  80. Jennie R February 10, 2014 at 8:41 am - Reply

    I just want to say thanks for this. Being an older single woman most of the people my age are married, but I am learning to celebrate my singleness. I am looking forward to celebrate S.A.D. With you and all you other amazing Single people out there.

  81. Valarie February 10, 2014 at 8:41 am - Reply

    I am a divorced single mother and have been for over 6 years. I have struggled a lot during this time with what next. I have no other friends who are divorced, which is great!, but they can’t relate to how hard it is even though they try. I prayed about it all the time and found so much comfort in Angela Thomas’s book “My Single Mom Life”. I re-read it every time I get that old sorry for myself feeling and it helps me to remember just how great I have it even without romantic love in my life right now. I have so many other wonderful things and, one day, God will send my Mr. Right!

  82. kim phimister February 10, 2014 at 8:41 am - Reply

    My gran would always ask me if i had a boyfriend, and everytime i felt embarrassed at saying no, because it would cross my mind that i had never even had anyone ask me out, no one had ever shown the slightest of interest in me. This was only made worse because in Scotland we do ceilidh dancing were u had to pick partners and the boys acted like you had some kind of disease if they were to touch u. I am now in my late 20s and seeing so many people find love in my church, the hardest to watch are the ones who are so much younger than i am and wondering why not me, i told a friend that i had a crush on a guy in our church and she was very excited but was told that some people are destined not to get married and this just about broke my heart, i no that God has been working in me for it wasn’t the last time that my heart would be wounded in this way, i was at a few weddings last year and i sat at a table with some married friends and my crush, they were asking him why he wasn’t dancing with anyone and he just said there wasn’t anyone to dance with because they were all married as if i wasn’t even there, my crush on him wasn’t quite as strong and i think that it might have hurt even if it wasn’t there at all, it was like being back in school and would take all that was left of me not cry. Now i still get asked about boyfriends but now i am at peace at the realisation that God sees me! My father in heaven loves me and that i was worth more than liking a guy cos he was there at the time.
    girls put their worth on what attention they can get from guys. When our greatest feeling of worth comes from God. So now in at peace at being single and try to tell my single best friend the same thing, there is always hope and a promise, my 7 year old niece thinks ill will get married at 31 lol i can wait the 2 years while we each get ready ๐Ÿ™‚

  83. Jessica February 10, 2014 at 8:41 am - Reply

    I have accepted that my circumstances are a gift from God. That broken engagement? I was saved from life with a cheater and liar. I now have more time and money also for honoring and serving the Lord and His people. Though what I long for most is motherhood, I know I have some fertile years left in this 30+ body. Meanwhile, I’m learning how to take care of my health and weight loss so I can avoid things like gestational diabetes or another miscarriage. I thank you Mandisa for speaking God’s messages of hope to the world so fearlessly! You’re my hero!

  84. Crista February 10, 2014 at 8:42 am - Reply

    After some reading and hearing God speak to me over the last couple days. I’m feeling very excited to have my wonderful, loving 6 year old daughter be my Valentine. She makes her gifts and gets so pumped up about Valentines day. Which is awesome I love to make her feel special and been realizing I need to give her more of my focus and while doing so learning to once again put God first in my life. Allowing him to continue to change me and restore me, to teach me to prioritize my life properly. So that I can set a good example to my BEAUTIFUL Destiny(my baby’s name) So that she will fulfill her God given Destiny. So she can see that a woman can be without a man and feel complete as long as they live for our father.

  85. maggie February 10, 2014 at 8:42 am - Reply

    I have just recently realize how what a blessing it is to be single.. I have stop searching for him. And growing closer to God.. There are moments I do shed tears before Jesus saying my longing of being a wife and mom but I want the right one not just someone.. ialso pray for him because its very hard to stay pure and walk the right path. I do have a friend who gets depressed .. I am hoping if not Friday next valentines day she will embrace being single and realize we have the best love Jesus…
    Thank you Mandisa your music is my first thing I listen to and my birdie sings to it..
    Bless you all that are single..

  86. Kelley Mcelfresh February 10, 2014 at 8:42 am - Reply

    Content is my word for this year.I’m 51 and never been married yes I struggle with that but Gods plan is the best plan .valentines is about love , love isn’t desinated for couples its for everyone .showing and giving Gods love is for everyone everyday just like christmas its about love god gave his son that was love he teaches me how to love .get myself off of my mine and see who needs a act of love .its nice to hear other sinhles stories.besides most couple do nothing on that day.I’ve served at our couples valentine dinner in the past and I was blessed. In christ content

  87. annie February 10, 2014 at 8:47 am - Reply

    I am single mom. This morning found us belting out ‘Overcomer’ as we pulled into school. I am also found more inspiration recently by some married folks who seem to understand the commitment needed to maintain a healthy marriage.

  88. Ivory February 10, 2014 at 8:48 am - Reply

    Thank you for sharing the uplifting blog and opening my eyes that it alright that I am single. I look forward to the rest of the posts this week.

  89. Dawn February 10, 2014 at 8:49 am - Reply

    I struggle either singleness sometimes. Waiting and wonderingif I will ever find love. Just the other day imet someone in eharmony. I was so excited. Conversations wrrr going eell. Then all of the sudden he says I’m not attracted to u. I was hurt. But then thought that must not have been the one. I had to remember God has someone for me. This wadnt him apparently. Patience.

  90. Christina Sweet February 10, 2014 at 8:49 am - Reply

    I love all those. I have been divorced twice and now refuse to seek a mate until the Lord is ready for me to have one (and if he never is I am OK with that). I tried and failed doing it on my own now God is my focus. He loves ME more then any man could ever!

  91. Megan Starbuck February 10, 2014 at 8:50 am - Reply

    I love #14! Having parents who are divorced made me see the bad side of relationships & made it easy to wait for a good one. Sometimes I let it make me scared of good ones, too, though. I enjoy being able to travel & live where I want, but I’m also encouraged by couples who are traveling & going on adventures together supporting each others’ dreams.

  92. Victoria Rose February 10, 2014 at 8:52 am - Reply

    It breaks my heart to see so many women and men feeling like the NEED to be in a relationship, that they don’t feel whole or complete without one. That mentality can be very dangerous and can lead to abusive relationships. Many people do not even consider their self worth through Jesus Christ. They do not realize that they are loved beyond conpare and that someone would die for them.
    I have personally been single my entire life. Sometimes it’s hard, but then I look at my life and know that God is still working in me. I am not marriage material yet. So why would I date anyone? I know Gods timing is perfect and one day he will show me who I will marry. But until then I will be content with who and were I am right now and work on becoming who God wants me to be!

  93. Natalie February 10, 2014 at 8:54 am - Reply

    I am definitely single and staying that way for awhile… I have had my fair share of relationships including one divorce. I am a single mom of two very active boys and I have chosen that at this point in my life, if God would like me to be alone then so be it. I have a lot of activities going on for me and my boys to keep us on the right path. I know that God will bring me my special man one day and I look forward to that but for now, I will focus on the current path that I am on ๐Ÿ™‚

  94. Sheila February 10, 2014 at 8:55 am - Reply

    I will approach this topic a little differently than some, but I’m sure many of you will relate. I speak from the perspective of someone who has been married (divorced since 2000). I did not embrace my singleness at all, and many failed relationships later, stood before the Lord broken and empty. When I began to seek HIM with ALL my heart, things began to happen in me I didn’t think possible. I ended a relationship of 2 1/2 yrs recently that had reached talking about marriage. I realized in seeking the Lord that I was about to marry a man for the wrong reasons (again). I embrace my singleness now, appreciating the two young men (my sons) that God has entrusted to my care. My valentine this year (and for as long as it takes) will be my boys. Ladies, I can not stress enough how important it is to seek the Lord when it comes to dating, getting married, or any other life situation. BUT you must also heed His voice and obey. I am so excited for what God has for our future and until HE opens that door, I will praise Him in the hallway!!!

  95. Mandy Carroll February 10, 2014 at 9:00 am - Reply

    Having just recently come out of a relationship I thought was going somewhere, singleness at Valentines Day is no fun. ๐Ÿ˜› But thank you, Mandisa, for being an example of joy in the face of not having what your heart so wants, because it gives lonely ladies like myself a smile and a reminder of the hope we can have in Jesus.

    Mandy’s reasons 1,5, and 8 really stick out to me. I can’t settle for less than someone who loves Jesus with all his heart, because only then will he know how to really love me. It’s just gonna be me and God for while, and I’m getting more excited to see what He’s going to teach me. ๐Ÿ™‚

  96. Sara February 10, 2014 at 9:05 am - Reply

    I was married for 17.5 years and have now been single for the past 3. While at first there was simply a great relief to be single again, I still longed to have that special someone in my life who would love me for me. My children and friends are constantly pushing me to jump back in the dating pool but honestly, God has brought me to the point that I am content just as I am. I do hope and pray that God has a special man just for me, but for the time being, I am content to wait on His perfect timing.

  97. Becky February 10, 2014 at 9:05 am - Reply

    After a painful divorce (in a relationship that did not have God at the center), I found myself a single mother of three girls. And after just one attempt at finding new happiness with a man, I gave it to God. It has now been 8 years, and I tell people all the time that if God wants me to have a man, he’s gonna have to hit me over the head with him, because I am most certainly NOT looking for him. My girls and I are the happiest we have ever been, and I live life on my terms. While a partner would be wonderful, I know that the Lord will send me one when he believes I am ready, and I am perfectly OK with that.

  98. Olga February 10, 2014 at 9:06 am - Reply

    Mandisa I love reading your blogs , you are so encouraging ๐Ÿ™‚
    My ex and I broke up last week. I have learned never get back with your ex. Usually they don’t change like they say they have! With God I know someone can change but if that person don’t want to they will not change. Now that I am single I can focus on my relationship with Jesus and wait for him to send me my perfect someone! Keep up the good work and God bless you !

  99. Irene February 10, 2014 at 9:08 am - Reply

    I think the people around me struggle more with my singleness than I do. I’m pretty happy being single, knowing full well that when God sees fit to bring the right man into my life that I’ll be ready for him. This year has been such a year of change already. I’m renewing my faith in God and learning to trust in him, no matter the circumstance. My life is finally getting back on track after a few years of struggle, and I’m learning that my independence and singleness has been a blessing. It has given me time to understand who I am, so that when God determines the time is right, I’ll be the best partner I can be to my future husband.

  100. Sarah February 10, 2014 at 9:17 am - Reply

    Recently I read one of Mandyโ€™s blogs about asking God to reveal His love to me in a way that I would understand. And while I was at my collegeโ€™s Snow Ball, He did just that. When I was starting to feel down about being there without a date, my waitress came over to me and said, โ€œSmile, honey, Jesus loves you.โ€ In that moment, I realized that I was truly loved by God and His love is so much greater than any love a guy can give me. And then later in the week, I received an email that said, โ€œMay you know how loved you are today.โ€ Two simple reminders that God loves me. And best of all God used my love language (words of affirmation) in both situations in which He reaffirmed His love for me. This week I am going to continue to look for these small reminders that God loves me. Iโ€™m feeling hopeful that this week will be a week of rediscovering Godโ€™s love for me. And I am more than content in my singleness, while at times I can feel alone, I know that God is preparing me and my future husband wherever He is. Iโ€™m trusting Godโ€™s plans!

  101. Amanda February 10, 2014 at 9:18 am - Reply

    I love all of the reasons, but especially #14- “Before you’re ready to wear a diamond, you want to become one.” She’s right: We can either choose to become bitter as we wait, or we can use the time to deepen our relationship with God and become the women He has called us to be. True, my “Boaz” hasn’t show up yet, but in the meantime, I’m loving the life God has for me right now.

    God bless you, Mandisa, and God bless Mandy for the continual encouragement to your sisters in Christ. You both have blessed me more than you will ever know.

  102. Erin February 10, 2014 at 9:19 am - Reply

    In the last few months, I have found myself praying a lot more often. Not just requests, but thanks and praise, and just how I am feeling. And when I am not feeling loved by the human beings around me, I release that to God and remind myself that He loves me, no matter what.

  103. Titus Eldredge February 10, 2014 at 9:20 am - Reply

    I am to single. I dream about being with someone. Thank you Mandisamatchbox you have touch my heart and thank you for sharing this song with all of us that is going through the same thing.

  104. Kristen February 10, 2014 at 9:20 am - Reply

    Wow, may need to read this everyday to welcome this new journey for me. Recently single again and after having what I thought was love basically discarded like trash… I need to embrace this and know that there is a new, perfect someone out there for me and even if there is not, I can enjoy and embrace this new singleness. Lord, give me the strength to do that! Amen!

  105. Kristie February 10, 2014 at 9:21 am - Reply

    Thank you for making this week a time of celebration for singles. Although I am content in my singleness most of the time, it is very difficult during Valentine’s season. When I see other singles embracing their marital status and celebrating in a way that is perhaps more meaningful than those who are simply buying into the commercialism is encouraging. I will not be a whiner this year. I am grateful for the love that I have, and will stand firm in my faith in God’s plan for my future.

  106. Annette February 10, 2014 at 9:22 am - Reply

    I too have been discouraged about being alone. But your right we need to work on ourselves with God’s help.

  107. Lisa February 10, 2014 at 9:30 am - Reply

    Well, I’m about to be newly single after 22 years of marriage. I have been separated for 7 years so I have been living a single life but married. Thinking back, my whole marriage I was a single married woman. I was devistated when he left . The first two years I prayed for him to come back. For 4 years I just felt numb. This last year I asked God to show me love, He did. I asked Him also to take over my matchmaking skills since I have done so poorly. I know that if I ever meet someone he will have to go through God to get to me this time. I hope to find a Godly man who loves me like God does but I have also resigned myself to the fact I will probably be single the rest of my life. It isn’t what I want but for the first time in my life I know I’ll be alright if I am. I love the song I’ll be waiting, it is what we as single women feel. Thanks for the blog, it ‘s nice to share with other singles our day to day struggles. Praise God no matter what!

  108. Helen Cordova February 10, 2014 at 9:33 am - Reply

    Most of the time I’ve handled being single just fine. I remind myself that God has someone for me and just as he is still fine tuning me he is fine tuning the man he created for me. Recently, it’s been a little harder since most of my friends are actively looking for a relationship. Most chasing on online dating sites and going on dates. There are times when I think “should I start online dating?” But then if I do I feel like not trusting in God’s timing. It’s an ongoin struggle in my head and heart. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us! I loved the blog! Reasons 11-14 are my favorite !! God is making me into a diamond little by little!

  109. Jenny Mabe February 10, 2014 at 9:33 am - Reply

    Awesome blog and I so needed to read both of them. I have been single for 34 years and I have never really cared about Valentine’s Day but I am going to embrace the single life and just learn to be happy being single. God will put the right guy in my life when he is ready to. I have really struggled in this area and needed this. Thanks for sharing.

  110. Annika February 10, 2014 at 9:35 am - Reply

    I still sometimes struggle with my singleness. But God is also teaching me to trust him and be patient. Looking around at so many people in relationships, getting engaged, or married, it can be discouraging. However, I believe God has our best interest in mind. The plans he has for us are good!
    When I become discouraged I look to Him and to other (singles) who have gone before.

  111. Jennifer Nixon February 10, 2014 at 9:36 am - Reply

    I am not currently content with my singleness. I know I “should” be. I need to be closer to God before another man.

  112. Becky February 10, 2014 at 9:37 am - Reply

    In the past I have been the Grinch of Valentine’s Day. I would sulk and wallow in my own misery of never having a Valentine of my own. This year, I am choosing to embrace this season of life God has blessed me with. This year I am teaching for the first time in several years, so this year God has blessed me with 18 cute and adorable Valentines. Then on the evening of Valentine’s Day this year, instead of staying home and sulking, a few of my single friends and I are going to get dressed up and go out to eat to celebrate being single. We’re even going to exchange cards with words of encouragement for one another. Instead of calling it Singles Awareness Day, we’re calling it Celebrating Singleness Day. It’s not easy to celebrate being single when so many friends are getting married and having babies, but God has put me here for a reason, so it’s up to me to embrace it and focus on what God is teaching me through all of this.

  113. Marina February 10, 2014 at 9:37 am - Reply

    He has a plan – ALWAYS – even when it doesn’t seem like it or it isn’t going our way. The time when your single should be used to develop your own talents and abilities and to use those to further His Kingdom. Take the time to discover your passions, goals, and dreams and act on them! When the time is right, He will match you with someone – doing the same – and you can conquer the world together. Spend less time worrying about finding the ideal guy and more time developing yourself to become ideal woman, wife, and mother.

  114. Megan D. February 10, 2014 at 9:37 am - Reply

    When I became single again it was hard not only because I still loved but because it made me a single mom which was something I prayed would never happen even before I had kids. I struggled for quite sometime but it wasn’t until I put my trust & love back into Jesus that I was able to overcome. I now know that the best is yet to come & I can “relax” in that. Good things are worth waiting for.

  115. Jonie Shidler February 10, 2014 at 9:41 am - Reply

    I try to remind myslef everyday that God has a plan for my life. He knows who i am supposed to marry, when i am supposed to get married, and whether or not i am supposed to get married at all. I just have to trust in God!!

  116. Crystal Brown February 10, 2014 at 9:45 am - Reply

    Number 4 was exactly what I needed a reminder of. I need to love when I’m ready and not just because I am lonely. Being 26 (nearly), living with my family again, and both of my younger brothers having serious girlfriends, I sometimes pressure myself into finding love where it may not actually be. Thank you Mandisa for the link to Mandy’s blog. It was exavtly the blessing I needed today!

  117. Ashley February 10, 2014 at 9:50 am - Reply

    This could not have come at a more opportune time. It’s encouragement like this – this being just knowing I’m not alone in being alone – that brings evidence that God is working even when it feels like he’s not answering that prayer. I believe God always answers, it just may be a no, or the ever-so-dreadful (I say that tongue in cheek) “WAIT!” I find that during this season of singleness God has shown me so many godly women in my church and in other areas of my life whose example is one to be followed. Even in my own bible study God has revelead areas of ministry for me to work in and lead, areas that I may not view as satisfying or even available if someone else was in the picture. Thank you for your words, your music, and your example.

  118. Kelley February 10, 2014 at 9:50 am - Reply

    I am 38 years old & have struggled with being single for many years. I have questioned why I am still single and never married many times. In the last few years I have put all of my trust in God and realized He has other plans for me at this time. I know when it’s His timing things will happen. I love the great examples in Mandisa and Mandy Hale and can totally relate to the posts and stories on the single life.

    Valentines Day becomes just another day, but I celebrate it with my toddler nephews and my Dads birthday. I am content with making the day special for them and trust this is what God wants me to do.

  119. Sara February 10, 2014 at 9:51 am - Reply

    Sounds good! I was one who benefited from Galentines day last year. What a blast and a blessing!! You even talked to me and complimented me on my dancing. I know yoube gotten much busier now with tours but maybe next year ๐Ÿ™‚ Have fun on tour and enjoy the week. Thank you for remembering the singles! I guess Brandon Heath can Che in even though he is now on the dark side. Bahahaha!

  120. Linda Davis February 10, 2014 at 9:54 am - Reply

    I am a single woman in my 50’s and I have been single since my 30’s…after a traumatic marriage. I used to think I wasn’t good enough for marriage and struggled many years over my singleness. I raised my children by myself and now I am enjoying grandchildren. I am an Overcomer :). I have learned through the years that I am worthy of marriage but that I am content being single. Jesus is my husband. I choose to trust Him for my life and everything that goes with that. I want God’s best for me so I wait on Him. I love Philippians 4:11-13. It is one of my go-to verses.

  121. Heather February 10, 2014 at 9:54 am - Reply

    Before I was always trying to find love my way. But over the past few years I’ve been doing it God’s way. He’s even tested me and I could recognize the signs. I’m ok with being single. My life is God’s and is already planned by Him. I just want to keep my eyes, ears and heart open for the journey! God Bless!

  122. Deb February 10, 2014 at 9:54 am - Reply

    Thanks for being an encourager to single adults! I for one am trying to keep the focus off of myself and seek to find ways I can bless others this upcoming weekend.
    It’s hard though, been doing a lot of “stress crying” this week and I think all the reminders of my single status aren’t helping. God still has many good gifts for all of us Gotta keep believing that…

  123. Emily February 10, 2014 at 9:56 am - Reply

    Thanks for being a great example of authenticity!

  124. Megan February 10, 2014 at 9:57 am - Reply

    My favorite quote would have to be number 11 because everything is in God’s timing but when you feel lonely, you tend to forget that. I have to trust God’s plan for me even if it doesn’t include a man in my life like I hope and dream about. Valentines is always the toughest day of the year besides the holidays being single. All I can do is wait patiently and see what God has in store for me!

  125. Michelle February 10, 2014 at 10:00 am - Reply

    After my second husband decided in April of last year that he no longer wished to be married, I found myself single for the first time in my adult life (my second husband & I started dating at the same time as my first divorce…yes, I admit that was a BIG mistake). I was terrified of the idea of being alone. I then picked up my Bible and rediscovered my life in Jesus. I have been a Christian for almost 30 years but had put my life before my God. Now I find that God is truly all the companionship that I need and for at least this time in my life, all that I want. He has blessed me with some truly amazing new sisters to walk with through this time but I have no desire to share my life with a man. Last year while going through my divorce I was dreading days like Valentine’s Day but now I am at peace with who I am as a single woman completely devoted to following my Lord.

    I am getting ready to embark on another journey that God has for me. I am moving from my home state of Florida (the only state I have ever lived in) to the wonderful state of Georgia. I have never made a large move like this and now I am doing it alone and I have never felt more at peace and full of joy. God has done so many amazing things for me this past year. I am so sorry that I had not put Him first in my life years ago. He is all that any of us need.

  126. Kimberly February 10, 2014 at 10:06 am - Reply

    Today marks the day of being a single mom for 20 years. Yes, 20. My beautiful twins, Billy and Brittnee, turn 20 today. When they were growing up, I was ok with my singleness. I knew my purpose was to raise them. Now that they are older, I’m wondering what else God has in store for me. I used to ask what was wrong with ME, why am I still single? Ive figured out it’s not me, specifically, just my choice of men. So I’ve turned it over to God, and if I’m meant to be with someone, He will put him in my path when He knows the time is right! Until then, I’m rockin’ the single status!

  127. Laura February 10, 2014 at 10:07 am - Reply

    Singleness rocks my face off… OK, that might be a slight (read major) over exaggeration, but I am learning to love my singleness more and more every day. ๐Ÿ™‚ God is so faithful, and He fills me up beyond what I ever could have imagined. I would love to win the advanced reader’s copy of this book. Sound like another wonderful tool written by one of God’s chosen. Huzzah for singleness!

  128. Jennifer February 10, 2014 at 10:09 am - Reply

    It has been a long road for me to be able embrace singleness after divorce. God was not the center of our relationship and I now realize that was our biggest mistake. After my divorce, I began to focus on my relationship with God and with His help, I am finally content as a single (divorced) woman. I have embraced whatever plans God has for my future, even if His plan is for me to remain single the rest of my days.

  129. Frani February 10, 2014 at 10:10 am - Reply

    For years I was married to a very abusive man but in my mind “he was better than nothing”. Then after I got saved (I’m Jewish) The Lord showed me that I definitely deserved more in life than being beaten up by an alcoholic cheating husband. Scariest thing I ever faced but with God’s help I took myself and children out of a horrible situation. My ex has since admitted he is gay.

    All this to say Yes, it is be hard to be single, lonely at times, scary, and sad when you see all the happily married couples together. I have been single now way longer than I was married and am truly blessed by seeing my 2 girls married to awesome Godly men.
    Thank you Jesus for always being there, loving me unconditionally and being the Mate that I truly deserve!

  130. JN Miller February 10, 2014 at 10:20 am - Reply

    I used to be so discouraged when I saw that college graduation was drawing closer and I still was living in singleness. But I let God speak to my heart and He let me know that through all the growth in my faith and the miles traveled in my walk with Jesus during this season if my life, that a significant other would have stiffened who I was to become through Christ. I now hold dear to the truth that as He has become more in my life, I have become less; just as the Bible says it should be. And none of this great grace and joy would have been possible if my focus had been anywhere else but on Him. So, I celebrate Him this Valentine’s Day; because it is through Him, and only Him, that I am truely made complete.

  131. Amanda February 10, 2014 at 10:27 am - Reply

    A gal-pal and I have been single for many years. We are spending Valentines together to have dinner and encourage each other. I try to use this time of singleness to learn what I can about being a godly wife. Thank you Mandisa for your honesty and openness.

  132. Anna-Marie Robert February 10, 2014 at 10:30 am - Reply

    I am at a place spiritually where I am going through a lot of inner healing. So, being single right now is a blessing. At 45 years old, previously married/divorced, adoptive mother of a (now) 16-year old daughter (who thinks she doesn’t need me)…I am exhausted in every way. I hope that once my healing time is well on its way, to be better prepared for whomever God brings my way. Like Ruth and Esther, I must prepare to ‘become’ the right one for the man God has for me and not worry about ‘finding’ the right one…God already has him picked out.

  133. Elisabeth February 10, 2014 at 10:30 am - Reply

    Thank you, Disa!!!! I adore that you’re so open and vocal about everything you wrestle through. I’m 31, never even dated before, and it’s extremely rare to have another person in my life who’s in a similar position. (That’s not uber weird or extremely socially awkward.) I love having you around:)

    I admit I’m not 100% comfortable in my singleness. I struggle with it at times because I want to have a companion, partner, someone to use my gifts for. And I desperately want to be a mommy. But the way I deal with it is to seek out opportunities in which to use my gifts for the Body. I find ministries I love and dive in with everything in me. It always ends up being a wonderful thing. Because He is good!!!

  134. Deby February 10, 2014 at 10:43 am - Reply

    Thank you for sharing this. I am 61 years young and divorced. I am very content with who I am. Single. It would be nice to have that special Someone in my life, but if God doesn’t send him that’s fine.

    I love your music!

  135. Heather Condon February 10, 2014 at 10:43 am - Reply

    I’ve been single for 5 years now and have decided to seek the Kingdom. My life has changed drastically because of that decision. Instead of feeling desperate to get out of singleness, I have an excitement for what God has next for my life — whatever it is. My motto is “what if…why not…” what if I decided to trust God with my life. All those scriptures we read in the Bible with promises and proclamations from the Lord will become a reality in my life. Why not give God a try?? What if I let Him do his thing??? He can do a better job with my life than I can. I’m excited to see what’s next. ๐Ÿ™‚

  136. heather February 10, 2014 at 10:44 am - Reply

    You have totally changed how I look at this. I’m 30+ also and have never been married. Don’t get me wrong I love my freedom, but I’m soooo ready to have a family. After reading your blog gods got this and I will wait for him to lead me in the way he has planned.
    You have know idea how your music has helped me and so many ways. You have helped thru losing my mom to cancer and to help me help my friends who have been affected by cancer and in just many other ways. Your music feels up my Ipod and if I ever start feeling down I turn on one of your songs and it brings me right back up.

  137. Paula February 10, 2014 at 10:44 am - Reply

    Most of the time I’m content with my singleness. I have raised 2 great kids and view this as “me” time now. Yes, I’d love to have a husband to share the adventures with, but God has truly blessed me with great girlfriends that make life exciting. ๐Ÿ™‚

  138. Leria February 10, 2014 at 10:51 am - Reply

    This is so very encouraging. Thanks for posting this. It encourages me to keep waiting for who GOD has for me.

  139. Gen Sea February 10, 2014 at 10:53 am - Reply

    This is a great resource…I’ve been struggling with my singleness having just turned 20 without ever being asked out/having a boyfriend…this is especially hard cause in college almost everyone is paired up…I feel like the ultimate third wheel some days. But during this time I’m striving to find my worth in Christ, knowing that even if I never find my earthly one, I already have my eternal one.

  140. Tiffany February 10, 2014 at 10:56 am - Reply

    Love this! I made the decision last year that while everyone else was out on their V-day dates I was going to spend time with the most important man in my life, Jesus. He’s the best “date” ever! Although I will be spending time with my church family on the 14th this year I’ve decided to set aside a specific time on the 15th for my date with Jesus this year. People think I’m crazy when I talk about it but there’s no love like His love ๐Ÿ™‚

  141. Tiffany February 10, 2014 at 10:56 am - Reply

    I truly managed contentedness for numerous years, patiently waiting and enjoying the time (though I still wanted someone to share it with) while assuming we’d meet one day. However, with turning forty & realizing the dream of building a family has to be surrendered (even if I get to marry), I’m very disappointed. It’s hard to face that I trusted & waited but don’t get this opportunity for love or family. (Occasionally, I want to be bitter now because I could do like other girls & have this if I wasn’t waiting for marriage. Yes, I’d rather be alone than in a bad relationship.)
    I don’t idolize marriage & know it brings other challenges, but it’s an experience I’d hoped to have & to grow together during.
    I also get tired of all those married people telling me there is still time. They don’t know what it’s like to do life alone for decades! (& honestly, many of them shouldn’t have married or had kids but feel they can give me advice because they did. I could have done that-but not yet in the right situation.) Many of them seem to think it’ll be easy because I still look young, but my age will catch up with me & anyway what help is appearance? Frankly, I’d rather have someone now to share the journey of life, travel, struggles, celebrations, & knowing God. (Yes, I know the advantages I’ve had as a single & am grateful to have known God better through those times.)

  142. Marisa February 10, 2014 at 10:59 am - Reply

    Being single again has been hard. I am so grateful for strong women out there who encourage me to embrace my single-ness and focus on my one true love- Jesus.

  143. Amy February 10, 2014 at 11:03 am - Reply

    Thank you for reminding all of us that God is working for our best interests as we are part of His plan, not our plan! Lonely is a struggle that can seem impossible. We, however, are never alone. God is in every moment. But, what a blessing it is we someone else reminds us that we are precious and loved! Have a beautiful day!

  144. Mariah Honig February 10, 2014 at 11:08 am - Reply

    I love the concept of singles appreciation week instead of singles awareness day. In currently reading the Sacred Search as well as getting ready to start the captivating and lady in waiting studies. Go singles!

  145. Darcie February 10, 2014 at 11:14 am - Reply

    Mandisa you are amazing!!! I wish I could do better at being content at being single! You and Mandy Hale are great inspirations for all of us single people.

  146. Vickie February 10, 2014 at 11:17 am - Reply

    I love this idea – wish it had been around in my younger years when it was looked down upon to be a Single Christian in church. I have now been single for 40 plus years and at times regretted my decision but for the most part I am saved, single and satisfied. As Lucy Swindoll put it “I married and adventure”.

  147. WendyW February 10, 2014 at 11:20 am - Reply

    I’ve always been single, had 2 dates my entire life. It’s just where I am right now. I am 50, pretty content with life except a struggles with past hurts. I know that when the time is right God will bring me the right person , just for me. I have realized that I don’t want to be alone as I get older, recent life events have shown me that, but I have a peaceful feeling about it.

  148. Ginger February 10, 2014 at 11:24 am - Reply

    I have been doing a study in my women’s small group, A Lady in Waiting. I love the focus of this book and I love the idea of making myself well and whole and truly in sync with God’s plan for my life before pursuing a relationship. I love the encouragement and blessing of this post, thanks sister! (:

  149. Aloise Shepherd February 10, 2014 at 11:30 am - Reply

    Mandisa, Oh how I love you. I love your vulnerability & love for Jesus. Your words are so practical. From one 30+ single, never been married sister to the other, I appreciate you. Thank you for being a shining example for us. Sincerely, Aloise.

  150. Brooke Bradford February 10, 2014 at 11:33 am - Reply

    Hey girl! I’m loving your theme week. I, too, have always hated S.A.D. Day. I look forward to checking out your blog posts this week ๐Ÿ˜‰ We are I’m this together!

  151. Heather February 10, 2014 at 11:41 am - Reply

    In a cruel twist of “fate” my divorced was finalized on Valentine’s Day. I still struggle a bit with the day, but I created a Family Love Day with my son and we celebrate being a family. God has shown His love so powerfully through it all.
    Thanks for the encouragement. It means so much.

  152. Andrea February 10, 2014 at 11:46 am - Reply

    Most of the time I LOVE being single but the month of February is not usually one of those times. I celebrate my birthday and 6 days later the rest of the world, at least that is the way that it seems, celebrates Valentine’s Day. I struggle, being a single never married woman who just turned 35, with the idea of celebrating single appreciation day on Friday instead of single awareness day as I have for the last several years, but I am willing to try.

  153. Justine Almanza February 10, 2014 at 11:56 am - Reply

    Mandisa, you are truly an inspiration! I too am waiting on the guy that God has planned for me, and actually have been for my whole life. Although it’s hard sometimes living in a society where we get things fast, I know it’ll be worth it in the end. Just within this last year, I started finding more of myself in God and just staying focused on him. So I think it goes hand-in-hand with what you were saying about not only finding Mr.Right but becoming Mrs, Right. Just got to have faith and trust in God’s timing. Thanks for the encouragement ๐Ÿ™‚

  154. Melanie Rachel February 10, 2014 at 11:57 am - Reply

    Sometimes I do get lonely around what they call the HOLIDAY OF LOVE. But I remember the 2 children that I gave birth too, and I love on them. Ends up being an overall great day. My 4th Valentines Day being single……………..I got this. LOL

  155. Cheryl February 10, 2014 at 12:01 pm - Reply

    I am 45 and twice married, twice divorced. Both not Godly relationships. Being single has been a struggle for me and I get lonely a lot. It has also taught me a lot about myself. I love the blog and the song praying for you. I definitely want a God-written love story that has three strands. That’s what I’m praying for now and I will pray Psalm 112 for God’s match for me and 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 for me. Thank you for showing me its ok to celebrate being single and that Its ok to pray for God’s husband for me.

  156. Heidi Smith February 10, 2014 at 12:08 pm - Reply

    I totally just finished Mandy Hale’s first book and completely loved it!! How funny that you post this right after I finish the book! I marked that sucker up and it has lead me to so many new opportunities for my future. God is so good and I am sending it to every single girl I know! Great words!

  157. stephanie February 10, 2014 at 12:11 pm - Reply

    I love Mandy Hale and her countdown to celebrating singleness. I want to say thank you mandisa, you have helped in my spiritual growth. I can connect with your music and it has changed my life. It’s been a little over a year since the man i was with for 6 years and thought i would marry left me. I was in a dark place and thought i would never see the light but gods loving grace my heart has healed. I have embraced my singleness and love the fact that this is my time! my time to connect with the lord and give him all my attention. I dont worry that my husband is not out there because it is all in gods hands and in his timing. I pray every day for my boaz, my future husband. I am excited about this valentines because I am content with me and my single walk with god. I pray for all the single men and women out there. dont be sad this week or discouraged instead embrace it and trust gods will and timing for you ๐Ÿ™‚

  158. Monica February 10, 2014 at 12:15 pm - Reply

    I love and admire the strong woman you are Mandisa, I try to express to my nieces how we all need to love and be comfortable with ourselves before we can be enjoy be happy with someone in our life. I pray everyday I myself to practice what I preach so to speak lol, And I maybe single but I spend Valentine’s Day with family and c’mon I believe and can say if I may, I am the best date I have had in awhile haha.
    Thanks again for all your positive messages!!!!!!

  159. Susan February 10, 2014 at 12:19 pm - Reply

    I had two marriages end badly and am so much happier being single and making my own decisions instead of having someone control me. I work with women who are victims of domestic violence and am very fulfilled and feel that is what I have been called to do. Good luck to you Mandisa, you will find the one for you.

  160. Kizzy February 10, 2014 at 12:24 pm - Reply

    Great blog Mandisa. I am the same age as you, a Christian and not married yet. It was really getting me down and in august I heard you speak on k-love and you inspired me! I listened to the series of sermons you mentioned and my outlook has changed. I know God has a husband out there for me and I will meet him in God’s time. I’m not saying it is easy but I feel more at peace and am focusing on getting my relationship with God right and sorting things out in my life so that I will be right for my future husband. Thank you for your positive outlook, it has really helped me.

  161. Kellea February 10, 2014 at 12:28 pm - Reply

    I so appreciate this. I often use the hashtag #BeSingle because, although it may be hard and challenging at times, I think so many people just need to learn how to #BeSingle, to be by themselves and learn to enjoy it. As an only child, I have always known how to be in a space of my own and as I grow older, while I would like to share my space with a man, I appreciate my alone time and try not to look at it as being lonely. I think there is a difference. If you are alone, it gives you time to do what I like to call “get your life together”. I love being in groups with others and having my social time but when it’s time to be alone, I don’t want to be bothered. I think more and more Valentine’s Day becomes not only more commercial but much more overbearing with the notion that love must be associated with a gift on this one special day. To all of my single sisters, #BePatient and #BeSingle.

  162. Ellen Partridge February 10, 2014 at 12:30 pm - Reply

    I love this idea! I read the blog and it really inspired me that I have been looking at this week all wrong. Not only that but that I may still be single because God knows that he has more for me todo that I couldn’t do in a relationship. I go to a Christian college and the saying ‘ring by spring’ is always thrown in your face. Most of my friends are in relationships, engaged, or married and I haven’t had a boyfriend the entire time I have been in college. Sometimes playing theirs wheel gets old. But this year I am determined to spend valentines day differently than I have the past 22 years!

  163. Chelsea McLaughlin February 10, 2014 at 12:53 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much for this. Ya confer maroon of how I have been feeling and my prayers I God in this season of my life! Thank you!! God bless you!!

  164. Carissa Allen February 10, 2014 at 1:00 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much for sharing, Mandisa!! I have been striving lately to be content in who I am in Christ. Not who I am according to anyone else, but who I am only to Jesus. I do not need anyone else to prove my worth. That is not anyone else’s job but my own! I know my worth, but sometimes I let the world’s view of relationships cloud my vision. Constantly reminding myself of who I am in Christ has been my goal. I may not be completely content being single right now, but I am working on it, and God is working on me. I am trusting in His will and His timing!

  165. maria February 10, 2014 at 1:20 pm - Reply

    i am about to turn 35 and am a single mother to an almost 13 yr old baby girl. i was raped at age 3 by my adoptive fatherand sexually abused from that time until i was 17 by relatives and strangers. i also endured domestic;verbal;physical;mental and spiritual abuse from the same man up until i was 28. i was lost and broken. i felt unlovable and worthless. God was someone i knew from afar. 5 years ago He rescued me from satans hold and has been working in me ever since. i fear marriage yet yearn it.

  166. maria fernandez February 10, 2014 at 1:28 pm - Reply

    in the end i detested men. i detested myself and even detested God until my veil was removed. i am a major introvert. love to sing and draw and take pictures but when it comes to talking. i balk. and i stutter when nervous. i love my daughter and the main reason i have her was because i wanted to have a baby without being married less in love. i never loved her father but allowed him to have access to my body but never my heart. ever since i had my baby i have stayed away from men. God has done major work

  167. maria February 10, 2014 at 1:35 pm - Reply

    i have overcome many obstacles and even last year when my daughter and i became homeless and had to depend on others to offer us shelter and food and i reached my lowest point my Heavenly Father would encourage me and whisper how much He loved us and never leave us. learning to wait and trust in Him was not easy. more so when i ended losing my car after losing my stable job and not being able to pay off bills. in the end i had to make a choice. to stay in the states and live on the streets or come back

  168. Amy Saunders February 10, 2014 at 1:49 pm - Reply

    Hi my names is Amy. I am single and I don’t really like this week because of being single. I know that this week will be hard for my dad my step mom past alway almost a year a go. I think that God will want me to be there for my dad. So i will put myself off to the side and be there for my dad

  169. maria February 10, 2014 at 1:52 pm - Reply

    or come back to my parents house in el salvador. in the end God revealed that i needed to come back and face my father and forgive him and my mom. it was hard and i felt like a total failure. but all in all here i am still single and yearning to be married yet fearing it and i have not given up. nor has my faith gone wary. i stand strong under His wing and He will continue to lift me upfrom these ashes. this is my story and testimony.

  170. Darla February 10, 2014 at 1:55 pm - Reply

    Being single has so many perks, but I do pray for God’s will be done in this area of my life. I like Mandy’s #10-#14 the most.

  171. Amy February 10, 2014 at 2:03 pm - Reply

    Thank you for bringing awareness to singleness during this time when most people are thinking of couples and love.

    I a 42 yr never married, no children woman. When I see women years younger than me complain or worry about being single then I get frustrated because I think you have plenty of time to find a spouse and start a family. Here I am in 40’s already only dated once in my life. My time is running out. Maybe more so than to be married I want to be a mom.

    I also understand that God may have chosen for me to be single and I try to be okay with His plan even though it’s not what I want.

    BTW I will be at the Hits Deep Concert on Feb 13 in Sioux Falls, SD. See Ya there.

  172. Emily February 10, 2014 at 2:05 pm - Reply

    Thanks for this ๐Ÿ™‚ I have been wanting a relationship for a long time and have been praying about it. It’s hard to wait (especially when all my frinds are in a relationship, engaged or married) but I’m trusting God’s timing and waiting. I know waiting will be worth it and I don’t want to just settle for anyone.

  173. Nichole Vierra February 10, 2014 at 2:06 pm - Reply

    This is my first Valentines alone in 5 years. Altho in those past 5 years I wasn’t always with the same guy it’s gonna be weird not going out and finding the prefect gift for “my man” and not going to dinner to celebrate. My last rralationship ended a year ago in April and it’s been a difficult road since. All of last summer I was struggling with God’s plan for me since my last relationship looked like it was headed for marriage. In the fall I finally came to the realization that he wasn’t “the one” and that God must have someone better out there for me. Altho at the time in my hearth was still hoping that my ex and I would get back together. He seemed prefect and so had our relationship, so I was in real turmoil over the whole thing. Just recently I finally got to a place where I am happy with myself and not being part of a “we”. After 5 years of almost always being part of a couple it was pretty hard to get rid of the feeling that half of me was missing. But I made it through! And now with Valentine’s Day right around the corner I’m going to try and stay positive and spend some well deserved time with one of my bffs who also is still single. I definitely liked Mandy’s #6 quote and definitely live by that one every day. Also the one about cake? Lol Cake is only made better with frosting and doesn’t require it. So I just need to remember I’m that awesome cake! Lol

  174. Cat Travis February 10, 2014 at 2:17 pm - Reply

    Thank you, Mandisa. The songs God has given you have touched me, but your stand and your strength give me courage as well. I am single now, after two failed marriages. My first was 18 years, my second was 2 1/2 months, but that relationship was 5 years of abuse and control. I am 3 1/2 years out now and strong and healthy finally. I choose not to date because I know I still have some healing to do and I am content to let God do the work that needs to be completed in my heart and mind to prepare me should He choose to bring another man into my life one day. For now, I have chosen to let God be my spouse.Being single isn’t as lonely a life as people make it out to be, not with God, and certainly not with my 3 year old chihuahua/dachshund, Nita!! I would love to have this book, so am hoping that I’ll win it, finances are pretty tight on my disability. God bless you and all that you do for Him.

  175. Elizabeth Sullivan February 10, 2014 at 2:20 pm - Reply

    I find it so encouraging that I’m not the only one who has moments of weakness in thinking, “God, will I ever have someone to be mine?” As a college student, I am surrounded by couples, flings, and sex. Being a Christian first and foremost, having morals that seem to go against the norm is hard, but being single is even more difficult. Every single moment when I start feeling sorry for myself, I have to stop what I’m doing and give everything over to my God. He is my everything, and He loves and pursues me each moment of my life. Not only is He the lover of my soul, but HE is also my Daddy. I’ve been disappointed too many times to count by my father, but my Heavenly Father has never stopped loving me. Holding onto all His promises, even if that means being single for the next 10+ years. I will still love God and give him my everything. This is my decree!

  176. Emily February 10, 2014 at 2:29 pm - Reply

    Thanks for this ๐Ÿ™‚ I have been praying for a relationship for a long time and sometimes it is hard to wait (especially when all my friends are in a relationship, engaged or married). I am just trying to be patient and trust God and His timing! I know it will be worth it but some days it is REALLY hard. It is good to know I’m not alone!!

  177. April Smith February 10, 2014 at 2:55 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much, Mandisa! Having been through loveless marriages and once again single since 2009, I try to remind myself that you can sometimes feel more alone with the wrong person, than you can when you just wait patiently by yourself (and with God, we’re never really alone :)). I have chosen the wrong people in the past. People that weren’t willing to see me through the bad times of cancer and other health issues and an 85 lb. weight gain. They weren’t strong enough, but that’s okay! GOD has carried ME and made me an Overcomer! I still have some health issues, but, thank God, I’ve been cancer free for 12 years and I’ve lost 80lbs! And just as your song says, so beautifully, I’m praying for the person that He has chosen for me. I’m gonna keep my nose out of the selection process this time…lol. Thank you for being so transparent and sharing yourself and your faith on a daily basis. It means the world to so many! I’m so looking forward to seeing you in April in Troy for my bday. Going VIP, ’cause I’m worth it! ๐Ÿ™‚ God bless you and your family!

  178. Cindy Strausburger February 10, 2014 at 2:57 pm - Reply

    This will be my first Valentine’s Day as a single in 26 years! I was happily married to my soul mate for almost 23 years when a third round of colon cancer took him last March. To say I’m lost is an understatement. These past 10+ months, since I lost him, have been a blur. I’ve had MANY highs & lows. The good days are outnumbering the bad now though!! I can, honestly, say that it was a blessing, ESPECIALLY for him, that Don lost this last battle to cancer. He lived so much of his life in pain.

    Now I have my days filled with being a single mom to a 17 year old boy & an 11 year old girl. I have two TERRIFIC kids that I love with all that I am! Don & I were SO BLESSED to be given our two miracles. I thank the Lord every day for both of my children & the years with Don!!

    Now, especially at night, I find myself in a place that I had forgotten. I sit here alone with my thoughts & memories. Usually there are tears too. But after a few months of that I realized that I was wasting what God has given me! I have nightly talks with him now. Sometimes I read the Bible. Sometimes I just talk. I’ve come to realize that this too is a journey. Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes we know or learn the reason, sometimes not. But in my journey with Don & his 21 year battle with cancer I have learned a lot. I thank God for EVERY day – good AND “bad”. I thank God that I have a warm home to live in, food in my stomach, a loving church, wonderful & supportive friends, electricity, etc., etc. I have come to appreciate all of the things that I have taken for granted too many times!

    I trust God with everything I am. I know that my Lord & Savior will see me through each & every day & situation. I don’t see being single as a bad thing. I have SO MANY other things to focus on!! If & when God decides I am ready for another life-long partner, I will open my heart and arms to him. If God decides that is not in my future, I will know that God has other things for me!

    Mandisa, I have appreciated you for years. I saw you on AI & knew you were a winner. I’ve listened to your music daily and “Overcomer” is my theme song! I’ve had the PRIVILEGE of hearing you & meeting you in person twice. You are MUCH more beautiful in person than in any picture! You’ve been given MANY gifts and use your gift of music to reach others…what a blessing. Keep up your AWESOME job & find comfort knowing that God has the perfect plan for you!! Trust in him!

  179. Lori Carter February 10, 2014 at 3:05 pm - Reply

    As a 47 year old never been married Southern gal, I completely get what you are trying to say! Thanks for stopping and taking the time for US!!!
    Waiting on Him…

  180. Hailey February 10, 2014 at 3:17 pm - Reply

    God has a special person for every person.
    But the key is waiting for that person.
    Mandisa I love your music!
    I think we sometimes try to rush things because
    are friends are in that stage.
    But God knows what’s best!

  181. Virginia February 10, 2014 at 3:19 pm - Reply

    #14 said that!!!!! That was what I needed. Thank you for sharing Mandisa!

  182. Beverly February 10, 2014 at 3:39 pm - Reply

    Thank you for sharing your story!! I’m 49, never married disabled woman who tries not to let it get the best of me. I’ve had a lot of challenges in life (my mom had open heart surgery when she was 6 months pregnant with me). Mom always tells people that I’m her miracle baby .So from the very beginning I knew I was a miracle and knew God has special plans for me. I’m very close to my family and have always put others first. I stopped working in 2007 and have been living with my mom since 2002. She has several chronic health issues.
    We lived in Puerto Rico when I was younger and I started college there. I was very happy and had a close friend. My Uncle passed away and my mom needed open heart surgery and God told me where I was needed. I moved back to Wisconsin to take care of mom and my two little cousins while my Aunt worked 3rd shift. I devoted myself to raising them, getting my BA, and working. Mom and I have both volunteered at the local meal site for Seniors and I deliver meals on wheels. Its a chance for both of us to get out and socialize.
    I always wanted a husband and family. I was diagnosed with uterine cancer and had to have a complete hysterectomy in my early 30s. I have always had my relationship with God and the last couple years I really needed to be “fed”, I found a church with a Spanish service, and friends who have helped me grow in my faith. I know God has a plan for me. Thank you for helping me and so many others!!!

  183. Dianne February 10, 2014 at 3:41 pm - Reply

    I just turned 30 and have never in life had a boyfriend on V-Day, sounds kinda sad and usually it gets me down and I loathe this time of year but this year for the past several months I have been teaching a single women’s class on Tues night for my church. Over the past year I have started really changing my attitude towards my singleness. I have finally reached a point in my life where I am truly happy with my singleness and look forward to where the Lord continues to lead me. I do pray that eventually the Lord sends someone my way but until then I will continue to pray for him and let the guide me. BTW I absolutely LOVE LOVE LOVE your song praying for you, discovered it a little while back and I listen to it all the time.

    Thanks for being a great example to women.

  184. Amber February 10, 2014 at 3:43 pm - Reply

    Just last night I felt like God revealed something new to me about me being single. I’m planning a trip to Guatemala, taking supplies to some bible school students in need. Last night my dad called to let me know someone was giving me a sizeable anonymous donation to help pay for the supplies.
    As soon as the phone call was over, I remembered a thought or dream I had five or six years ago about how cool it would be to visit a bible school in Latin America, blessing students with new dress shirts and ties (maybe it was a strange dream, or seemingly small, but God saw the dream). Honestly, I had long forgotten that dream until last night, but God hadn’t. He showed me that right now He is fulfilling my life dreams, and that’s exactly what I’m going to get to do on this trip!
    I’ve had a mentality for a long time that my dreams are on hold because I’m single, and that the life I want is going to start when I find the right guy, that that’s when God will really begin to use me and give me purpose. However, God revealed to me last night that He doesn’t have to wait until I’m single to fulfill my God-given dreams. My singleness doesn’t hold God back from using me and letting me fulfill my purpose, unless I let it. He can do it right now!
    Excited about what God’s doing, and I hope this will encourage other singles!

  185. Lindsay February 10, 2014 at 3:55 pm - Reply

    Mandisa, you have always been a source of amazing encouragement to me and actually helped give me the courage to END a toxic relationship I have been in for 3 years! I am looking forward to focusing on my relationship with Jesus and my kids again, even though it will be a gross V-Day Friday, the only Valentines I need are my kiddos! Thank you again and please keep creating your amazing music! You’re a beautiful person!

  186. Sally Price February 10, 2014 at 4:12 pm - Reply

    Thank you SO MUCH Mandisa for starting this week. Just this morning I had a mini pity party for myself. Oh how ridiculous. I’ve been through two abusive marriages. Been single now for the past 3 years, and I’ve not dated! I’m a mom to three teens, and I work FT outside the home.

    There are many advantages to singleness. I could never see them years before. I know that I need to be content in who God has made me and before I can venture into a relationship again. He says he is enough for us! I know He must be!

  187. Kathy B February 10, 2014 at 4:16 pm - Reply

    I LOVE Mandy ‘ s blog. I wrote down many of the different things on her list and have posted them around my apartment as reminders. I have grown to enjoy the single life. A lot of my friends are choosing to settle and at times that gets hard, but it’s nice to read blogs like yours Mandisa and Mandy’s it helps me continue on this journey to be patient to wait for God’s timing!

  188. Alyssa February 10, 2014 at 4:18 pm - Reply

    My favorites of the fourteen were 1, 4, & 14.
    I’m 21 and have never had a boyfriend or a guy that’s been interested in me. Most days I struggle with why I haven’t found someone yet, but then I remember ‘There are so many ways I need to mature mentally and spiritually, so I just need to trust that God’s time will meet me at the right spot when I’m ready.’

    Being single I have the ability to be independent and stretch my wings than if I were tied by a relationship or married. Now, all I need is to give myself a confidence boost to actually spread my wings! I’m hoping to eventually do some missions work or at least work overseas in my field of work for a short period of time -if God allows it. Who knows maybe I’ll find a husband on the other side of the globe?

    Actually thinking over this now has made even me more content with being single.
    Thanks Disa for sharing your friend’s encouraging words!

  189. April McClucas February 10, 2014 at 4:39 pm - Reply

    Hi Mandisa!
    You have no idea how much of an influence you have been to me over the past year. I remember hearing a part of the letter that you wrote to your future husband last year on K-love. After hearing that it encouraged me to write a letter to my future husband as well. I will be 34 in April and am still single. I have had much heartache over the years and I struggle with still being single almost daily. I see all of my friends happily married and with numerous children and it honestly breaks my heart. I have really been trying to focus on Jesus more and asking Him to help me through this time in my life. I know He has someone awesome for me, but being patient isn’t always easy and the older I get the harder it is becoming. It’s teaching me though to fully trust God and to lean on Him, which I admit, I don’t always do. I loved your blog about where it talked about while you are waiting for “Mr. right” you are also preparing yourself to be “Mrs. Right”. It is so true what you said, the worst thing would be to find “Mr. Right”, but to only be his worst nightmare. I can’t begin to thank you enough. I’m sorry that you haven’t found you “Mr. Right”, but it’s such an encouragement to know that I’m not alone, because let’s face it, it often feels like we are. Thanks again and I look forward to your blogs this week!

  190. Rebekah February 10, 2014 at 4:52 pm - Reply

    I am content at this point in my life being single. I just got the book Life, Love, and Dash of Sass. I know I have things that I need to work on, and with God’s grace and guidance I will get better. I know that He is preparing me for my future husband, and that He is preparing my future husband for me. I have had people both family and friends that have stated that I should settle, but I have settled before it was not the right thing to do. I like the book that Mandy Hale has written and can’t wait for her next book. I know God has great plans for each of us whether single or married. This season of being single is a time of preparation, and learning more about what God has for me. ๐Ÿ™‚

  191. Kris February 10, 2014 at 5:02 pm - Reply

    I loved the 14 Reasons to Celebrate Singleness…mainly because I still struggle with a number of those. It was so nice to have a few reminders that my life can be great on my own!

  192. Jeni February 10, 2014 at 5:18 pm - Reply

    To be honest, I’m not completely thrilled with being 36 and still single, but really learning tp seek God’s heart, instead of desperately trying to figure out His will. I figure if I’m becoming the woman He intends for me to be, then His will shall be inevitable… Still holding out hope to find the “one” but it’s no longer all consuming. He is truly now my all!

  193. Melissa February 10, 2014 at 5:26 pm - Reply

    I appreciate you being honest and open about your journey so far as a single woman. I was just thinking yesterday in church of how God has used my focus in ways I could never have given him in this season of my life if I had been married.
    It is a blessing to read your blog and other’s blogs and be able to relate.
    However I have to share my bed with a Jack Russell, so I still don’t have my bed to myself even in this chapter of life.
    Thank you.

  194. Brandy February 10, 2014 at 5:29 pm - Reply

    My focus this Valentine’s day is to Honor God. It’s something I have failed to do for many years and it’s been a good way to start my process of fulling loving and trusting God. I was baptized 23 years ago, but i just fully got it in the last few months, that to truly give yourself to God is to give him your full heart. I’ve start reading the bible, and even though i’m 32 years and never been married, i know I have to fully love and know God before he will bring me the man of my dreams. It’s not about me and trying to make someone love me or trying to make pieces fit that don’t. Love and know God first and he will light the path.

  195. Jennilyn Crawford February 10, 2014 at 5:31 pm - Reply

    Hey Disa! I never viewed valentines week like this. Your blog is definitely encouraging to me seeing as I am single. I am learning to look at my singleness differently like you ๐Ÿ™‚ Everyone of my friends ( at least most) are either married or getting married, so this is refreshing. Also great to be reminded of how God feels about each of us! Thanks so much for blogging and sharing! Your awesome <3

  196. cheryl t February 10, 2014 at 5:33 pm - Reply

    I am over 40 and still single. I work with youth and constantly reminding the teen girls to keep seeking God’s best for you… and HIs best plan.. I find giving myself helps me get through it.. having a purpose and making a difference. I want to leave my mark whether I am single or not.. that focus helps me on the days that I struggle with not being a mom or wife…

  197. Geneva February 10, 2014 at 5:34 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much for being such an inspiration! I have never had a boyfriend on Valentine’s Day and it’s always hard. However this year I was with someone and thought for the first time I would have someone to share that day with. But he just broke up with me on Friday. So not only is the valentines thing hard I’ve just been feeling very sorry for myself. To find this is purely a gift from God! Thank you!!!!

  198. Stephanie February 10, 2014 at 5:34 pm - Reply

    I think this is great. Loved Mandy’s posts on her blog. I go back and forth between being okay and hating Valentine’s day. This year, however, is a good year. I’ve been focused on a Valentine outreach, that a group of which I’m a part, is doing this year. Every Valentine’s day we go into strip clubs and give valentines to all the girls (and guys) who work there. It’s a valentine with no strings attached and it really opens doors for us to share the love of Christ with them. I’m looking forward to spending this week getting ready – gathering notes of encouragement, baking (or buying) cupcakes, nail polish, etc. Getting to let these women know they’re loved in a pure way is so much better than worrying about still being single!

  199. Misty February 10, 2014 at 5:38 pm - Reply

    Thank you Mandisa. I’m so inspired and encouraged by your music and your transparency. I had never heard of Mandy Hale until reading your blog today, but will certainly be subscribing to her blog. I agree with you #11-14 were my favorites too! I am Christ follower, who is 39 and single and has never been married. I struggled for a long time with it but God has done great things in my life and has changed my perspective on it. Praise God!

  200. jamie February 10, 2014 at 5:38 pm - Reply

    After many failed relationships and ending up the single mom of a disabled child, I now cherish being single. God has so much more planned for me and my son. I’m just enjoying the ride. I do hope someday to meet someone but until then I have my wonderful son and gods love to fill me with more love than I can explain or even fathom.

  201. Annie February 10, 2014 at 5:40 pm - Reply

    I love the part of becoming Mrs. Right. You have to become a woman worthy of the man you want to marry someday! Thanks for the encouragement!!!

  202. Erin Pruneau February 10, 2014 at 5:43 pm - Reply

    Wow! I love reading how you feel about being single and 30+. I feel exactly the same. The last year a lot hashappened and it is all God showing me that “He’s got this”, and to put my full trust in him. Don’t get me wrong, I still have days where I want to turn to Benand Jerry too, and I think it’s okay to have those occasionally. I now look at life knowing that God has a great plan and when my husband comes I will be ready and so will he!
    I loved Mandy’s Valentine’s sentiments. I can’t wait to share them throughout the week as encouragement to others!
    Thanks for being such a strong woman in Christ and I hope to see you and your friends in St. Louis soon! Maybe you can come back to Faith Church, where I work, we would love to have you. ๐Ÿ™‚

  203. Melanie Whitaker February 10, 2014 at 5:45 pm - Reply

    It seems like you’re giving me another reason to love you every day. I’ve been following your journey since your AI days and at times it seems like we’ve lived in parallel universes. I was with a man for 8 years who left me last year because of my inability to lose weight. I thought my life was over at the time but God has showed me over the past twelve months that He intercepted my intentions of marrying someone that would never love me with a God kind of love. I’ve learned that Christ is enough even in those moments when my feelings of loneliness tell me differently. At 41, and never married, I still would like to be married but only to God’s man and God’s timing. And to beat the band, despite traveling through heartbreak, I’ve lost almost 100 pounds since he left with the realization that God loves me just as I am and that it’s not about a diet but a process of trusting God with every decision and choice and committing even my food choices to Him. I attribute much of what I’ve learned in this process to what you, mandisa, have been so openin sharing, so thank you for being real and honest about your journey. I just learned last week that you and Colton Dixon will be in Winchester, VA in May and a friend and I have our tickets and can’t wait to come see you! Keep doing what you’re doing! Your music has gotten me through many hard workouts and your life continues to inspire me!

  204. Amanda February 10, 2014 at 5:45 pm - Reply

    As a single woman, I am very independent and proud of my self-sufficiency. God recently reminded me that even though I am independent and don’t need a man doesn’t mean that I don’t need Jesus. I need Him more and more each and every day… matter whether or not I have a man in my life.

    I am S.IN.G.L.E!!
    Secure IN God’s Loving Embrace!! (That is how I will celebrate Valentine’s Day!)

  205. LindaN February 10, 2014 at 5:47 pm - Reply

    Would love to win the book. Experiencing single life as a widow after 28 years of marriage to a wonderful man. Having to create a new “normal” with the love of Jesus getting me through.

    • LindaN February 10, 2014 at 6:02 pm - Reply

      Reason #1 is my favorite. Thanks for building us up and reminding us that we are worthy!

  206. Christine Laxson February 10, 2014 at 5:48 pm - Reply

    I have been on both sides. I was married for 11 yrs which he was not very romantic. even in the bedroom didn’t last long. He didn’t even bring home flowers cause he said they die. Of course I looked hm right in the eyes (which isn’t easy being I’m 5ft even and he was 5ft 10 in.s lol) and told him so do people hahaha . I’ve been divoreced for along while now and while I miss the snuggling (which he didn’t do either) I don’t miss alot of the other things.) I raised my 3 boys by myself and yes I miss having someone but make sure it’s what you really want cause marriage is a lot of work. Good luck Mandisa and God bless ๐Ÿ™‚

  207. Karla February 10, 2014 at 5:49 pm - Reply

    Number 14 says it all for me. I am happy to be single and should God have someone for me, I will know it is his choice. I often say I will probably trip over him.

  208. Trista Bowers February 10, 2014 at 5:50 pm - Reply

    Mandisa, thank you so much for being such an encouragement to all of us girls! It’s an awesome feeling to know that I am not the only one to struggle with being single but it’s through Jesus Christ and people like you that we find that strength to continue in our lives and wait on The Lord to send us that special someone!! I love your music, testimony, and all the things you do to serve The Lord!! Praying for you and appreciate you dearly!

  209. Vivian H February 10, 2014 at 5:52 pm - Reply


    I’ve been single again for about 9 years. Single mom of 2 great teens! God gave me a new perspective a few years ago. Singleness, no matter how it comes about is a gift. I learned to look at my dead marriage and see my own faults and become the woman God wants me to be. So, I don’t look for Mr Right. Since I’m not a good judge of picking out Mr Right, I’m choosing to wait on God. I’m content. There’s not a man on earth who can compare to God and all His resources! LOL Besides … Between running with the kids and working with the women’s ministry, I really don’t have time for a husband! PHEW!!

  210. Mandy February 10, 2014 at 5:53 pm - Reply

    In my singleness, I have grown closer in my relationship w God but it is tough when you have your children that you are concern about. Their father is not involved in their lives so it would be nice for the male influence. However, I pray everyday that they will allow the hole in their heart to be filled by their heavenly father.

  211. Julia February 10, 2014 at 5:53 pm - Reply

    Ahh yes Singles Awareness Day again… Now if only the whole shelf of big pink n red Teddy bears in every store would quit staring at me.

  212. Eunice February 10, 2014 at 5:57 pm - Reply

    Love the honesty Mandisa!!!!!

  213. Marg February 10, 2014 at 6:05 pm - Reply

    Be content in this season of life. God is a jealous God and He is not ready to share you with anyone else yet. He wants you all to himself! Iโ€™m so blessed to be able to do so many things that I would not have the opportunity to do if I were married. I help lead a singles ministry, get to participate in many service projects, and devote my time to the things that only single people can do. I can go on a momentโ€™s notice. Instead of dwelling on being single, rejoice in it. Thereโ€™s no better man in my life than that of Jesus Christ! Heโ€™s the best man a girl could ever want!

  214. F R C February 10, 2014 at 6:06 pm - Reply

    I am 37 and a single mother of 2 teens. I have been in relationships up until this point in my life where I have chose to live a Christian life and decided to choose single over settling. I have been following your “I love my future husband” motto and the advice and quotes of single woman facebook page. I am enjoy my downtime getting closer walk with the Lord. In my due time I know God will send me my husband-Godly husband. This is a brand new chapter for me and look forward to each brand new day. Thank you Mandisa for all the inspiration….

  215. Sarah Mahon February 10, 2014 at 6:12 pm - Reply

    Some days I’m okay with my singleness some days I’m not. Not long ago, I was completely okay with it. I could devote myself fully to The Lord, serve with all my heart and no distractions, and just enjoy life. I entered into a six month prayer challenge at my church, and my prayer was for God to either send me the man I was to marry or to show me His will for my life. Not long into that, I dove into serving with three different ministries at my church. I was loving it! Then I met him. The man I was SO sure I was going to marry. This past January 3rd, after we celebrated two big firsts together, he came over to my house to tell me he cheated on me with his ex girlfriend. The very next Friday he told me he was still in love with her. It broke me. But now I am working through that, and I believe that God was protecting me from that relationship, and He has someone much more deserving of me. I still struggle some days but I am working on it..

  216. Karen February 10, 2014 at 6:12 pm - Reply

    First just let me say that I love you Mandisa! What an inspiration you are. I very recently started making Christian music my daily choice of music (all day), and that’s how you and I met. LOL! One day “Overcomer” came on, and I was blown away. I made it my theme song for life. Now down to business…NO, I’m not even going to sugarcoat it. I am not at all “content” in my singleness. I actually want the week to be over with already. Its just another pathetic Valentine’s Day for me. At 40, I can honestly say I’ve never even had a decent date, with a decent guy (my entire life). I have one daughter who’s about to turn 18. I’ve never married, and she’s on her way to college. I will have the worse case of empty-nest syndrome ever. Been there, done that (for everything). I’ve been positive about it, prayed about it, sulked about it, been mad about it, contemplated on whether I was cursed, tried to enjoy the singledom, tried to “let go, let God”, picked out my wedding dress, tried to “will” it to happen, etc. etc. I’ve done everything that one might do. Well I haven’t put up a billboard yet…hmm. LOL! As paranoid as I am, I’ve even tried the online thing. Epic fail. Never again. I’ve even “given up” a million times. All I can say is that after 10 or however many thousands of years I’ve been single, only two words can describe how I’m feeling. Enough already. I wonder will there every be a year where I get the pretty roses and a soft teddy bear and candy. Yes, I want that at 40! I’m simple, I don’t need much. Thanks for giving me this platform to vent (something I wouldn’t usually do for the world to see). One thing I’ve learned, after you hit 40, all embarrassment goes out the window. Probably why I write poems to J.J. Watt that he’ll never see. I just keep them in my folder to read myself. At least I can have my fantasies. I’ve decided to just do whatever makes me happy (within reason of course) without being concerned with what someone might think or say. So there’s my testimony. Sigh. That was freeing and therapeutic ๐Ÿ™‚ I should do this more often.

  217. Jailynn February 10, 2014 at 6:13 pm - Reply

    I am 17 and a junior in high school. I know, most would consider me a bit young to post my opinion to S.A.D., but I just feel the need to let go of what has been inside these past two weeks. All of my friends have a special someone and it feels like I’m just here wishing for a guy to make me feel special on Valentine’s Day or the other days in the year. Then I realized, I am loved by someone who specially created me. So wouldn’t He know what is best for me? I know that someone is out there for me, but until then I will stay grounded in his word until he sends me that special someone. I feel like this is his way of helping me become stronger with the word for when I leave for college in a couple of years and have temptations thrown at me. Of course, having a secret admirer would be nice, I just have to believe he is doing this to help me. ๐Ÿ™‚

  218. Linda D February 10, 2014 at 6:17 pm - Reply

    I love it. I was married for 7 1/2 years and been divorced since 1985. I like being able to do things when I want without asking someone. And as my Uncle once told me “it’s better to be lonely than to be sorry”.

  219. Jesusmusicgirl February 10, 2014 at 6:23 pm - Reply

    I love this blog! Exactly what God has been dealing with me about….and we as being si ngle have to be fully fulfilled with God before we could be fulfilled with a husbands love. Because if God isn’t enough for for me being single then my husband won’t be either. ๐Ÿ™‚ love it!!!

  220. Sue Smith February 10, 2014 at 6:24 pm - Reply

    I have been single all my life. Until a few years ago, I struggled through this time of year. I began thinking about all the ways I could serve God by helping others that my married friends could not do because of their family commitments. I have several friends with spouses in the military and I have had a few occasions where the spouse is deployed and the friend here needed assistance with getting kids to/from functions and events or even just another adult to talk to. I have been able to pack a bag at the last minute and care for a church members home and pets because they need to leave town to care for a sick family member unexpectedly. Couples in the church need a night out, but can’t afford a sitter, no problem I can babysit.

    These are just a few of the ways God has opened my eyes that I can be a blessing to others because I am single and living my life to serve Him.

  221. Kate Harms February 10, 2014 at 6:25 pm - Reply

    As someone who apparently “did it all wrong” singleness is a struggle. What do I mean? I live in a very conservative part of the midwest. I missed my first “opportunity” by not getting married right out of high school. Then, I went to college to get an accounting degree instead of a “Mrs” degree. Whoops another missed “opportunity”. After college I focused on getting my CPA and then MBA. Now, quite honestly most of the men here are married. It’s hard. I won’t deny it, but I’m still praying.

  222. Danielle February 10, 2014 at 6:26 pm - Reply

    God does a have a time and man for us. He already has him picked out. Ive been divorced for 2 years and finally ready for thespecial man God has for me. After the difficult marriage l was in I didn’t want another man ever, but God slowly started putting it on my heart that I did. Its easy to get lonely and feel alone, but God is always with us He never leaves our side. He just wants us to embrace Him when we feel alone. I don’t date and have no desire to. I told God if He had someone for me that He had better smack me in the head with him or he won’t get my attention. God bless you sister in Christ. Just keep resting in Gos and praise Him when you feel impatient.

  223. GB February 10, 2014 at 6:36 pm - Reply

    God uses every situation in our life to help us grow closer to Him and learn to truly trust in Him. It was not until I was asked to give a singles talk a few years ago that I really began to focus on whether I was truly ok being single. I have always been that strong willed, independent, tell it like it is kind of girl. Last year God began to really focus my life on Him and what He wanted of me. I began to listen more intently to him in every aspect of my life. I want to be married but I always get the “Your standards are too high for anyone to reach or, you need to go look for a man; he won’t just come to you.” But God showed me this year more than ever that if my Faith is in Him NOT man He will give me my husband at just the right time. This time of singleness allows me to grow my relationship with Christ while my husband is doing the same. I know my Heavenly Father loves me and He would never give me anything less than His best as long as I am walking in His will and His way. That is exciting to me because I know my husband is going to be some kind of amazing but I and happier than ever being the single girl because God is intrusting me with growing his kingdom because I am focused on Him and I know my future husband and I will continue to do the same.

  224. Danya February 10, 2014 at 6:42 pm - Reply

    Being single was new for me in 2009. Didn’t handle it well at first, but that was because
    I didn’t know Jesus. In 2011 I decided I wanted to start dating again, so
    I decided to attend a singles retreat to find a nice guy. A customer at the winery I worked at told me about bayside singles. So I ended up signing up and driving
    To Lake Tahoe . I did not know anyone. Well, I arrived and by the end of the retreat
    Not only did I find a man( his name is Jesus )
    I found a new family. It’s amazing being in a community of
    Believers who support each other. We are all single, but not alone. Being. Single has never been easier, as a result
    My son Peter accepted Christ in his heart too!

  225. Lisa S February 10, 2014 at 6:52 pm - Reply

    Mandisa, thank you so much for your blog. I’ve never cared much for valentines day and I had gotten to the point where I really wanted nothing to do with the day since it just reminded me of how alone I am. You have started to open my eyes though and show me that I can think of the day in a different way and focus on God’s love instead of wordly love. I think that’s what I’m going to do this year. I look forward to celebrating singleawarenessweek!

  226. Michele Goblirsch February 10, 2014 at 7:07 pm - Reply

    Being single is not easy! I’m an older single who has never had a date and I question gods reasons all the time! I love all the reasons to celebrate singleness! But I’m not gonna lie it’s hard! At times I say it’s okay God if it neve happens I’m fine with that! But at other times I’m like what’s wrong with me! I’ve been told by others it because I don’t put myself out there! But I want who god has for me so if it’s his plan it will will work out!

  227. Keegan February 10, 2014 at 7:14 pm - Reply

    I have struggled for a long time about being single. Wondering why are all of my younger friends getting married before me, why can’t I be “happy” like them, what is wrong with me on why I’m not married?, when will my time come!

    My New Years resolution or more so my life style change was to live this verse! Philippians 4:11

    Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content.

    There is so much need for single women in my church! I’ve been able to help other young teens and young women deal with being single, I’ve learned that I’m free to live the life I want for Christ (take the opportunity to travel the world for His glory!!) I’ve learned so much about myself and my relationship with God over the past few months and it’s amazing to see what you can overcome as a single woman when you put all of the wordly stereotypes behind you and be content in God!

  228. Carrie February 10, 2014 at 7:27 pm - Reply

    Since my husband cheated on me and left me with a baby more than 10 years ago, I have absolutely LOATHED Valentine’s (That) Day! For the first 5 years I spent 7 days a week in the bar. I would start drinking minutes after my shift ended on Feb. 13th and not return to work until the 16th of February, giving myself a day to recover from the 2 day binge.

    5 years ago, following an incoherent plea to my ex-husband for a reason that “I wasn’t good enough” for him I made an attempt to take my life. One of the only memories I have is being on my knees in my living room pleading with God to “make it (the pain) stop”. I woke up from a coma 3 days later angry that God didn’t hold up his end of the bargain… He was supposed to make it stop and take me that night! Well, He made it stop! I took my last drink that night! I have since entered the ministry, I work with victims of violence and young women who struggle with addiction. I love serving the Lord and spreading hope and faith to girls like me!

    I still struggle with being single. I want a “real”ationship! One where God is the center! At 31 I have completely rebuilt my life! My son and I are thriving and he wants to be an evangelist! I long for a Christian man to enter our lives and be the leader of our home but until then, we are being obedient and faithful to the Lord!
    Thank you for taking the time to hear my story! I bought “The Single Woman” just this past Friday and read the whole thing that night! I have a new outlook and I love the Christian women God is putting in my path!

    Thank you Mandisa and Mandy Hale for your inspiration! May the Lord Bless you abundantly!!!

  229. kelaiah February 10, 2014 at 7:53 pm - Reply

    I have been already celebrating being single. I went through a rough time with it about ayear ago. And tthat’s when GOD told me to write my future husband letters/prayers. I could not see how focusing on him would help I thought it would make it worse the loneliness and desire. I can tell you that God knows exactly what he’s doing the letters have been healing and given me purpose and promise for my special someone. It was confirmation when I heard about the song Praying for you it fits perfectly I felt like I wrote it!
    Since beginning of this month I’ve been celebrating him with a new book I got from a friend called praying for my future husband it has been wonderful it’s shown me how to pray for him in a deeper level and has even changed me and shown me how I can prepare my heart for his.
    Be blessed single sisters and see what a treasure it is!

  230. Christie February 10, 2014 at 8:19 pm - Reply

    I got divorced 12 years ago and I have not dated. I tell people my success in life is not determined by what guy is by my side but instead my success is having Jesus Christ in my heart. It has been really neat the oppurtunities that God has opened up for me to be able to do and places to see. Yes I do have my moments but when I do I remind God he is my husband and I need a hug. And he gives me a hug. I like my God and me time.

  231. Kendra February 10, 2014 at 8:21 pm - Reply

    I’m a college student and I’ve been single You and Mandy’s blog have been so encouraging and inspirational.Thank you so much! I was content for a while about being single and then later down the road I just got discouraged and I’m still trying to work on being content.There have been times where I’ve wanted to settle,but deep inside my heart I know that’s not a good idea. Which I think it’s God protecting me.

    I believe it’s possible to be content again because I have been there before. The desire sometimes though is so strong to be with someone and there’s so much pressure, but I don’t want to just be with anybody,but who God has for me. I’m feeling pretty okay about this week. I can start being more devoted to God and take this time with him.

  232. Mary February 10, 2014 at 8:42 pm - Reply

    I am a 53 year old women, I was widowed at 23. I wanted to get married again and have kids so I chose the man instead of waiting on God. After 2 children – we divorced. I have been single 24 years. I feel like that raising my sons to be godly men was my calling. Now that they are grown – I do get lonely – but I know that God has something planned. If it is a someone to share my life with – that would be great – if not – I want to be willing to use what ever I have, who ever I am for God.

  233. Angela February 10, 2014 at 8:52 pm - Reply

    Thank you for this. I am new to single life after a 17 year relationship. It has been a struggle figuring out life as a single adult. I’ve always had a different view on Valentine’s Day, the traditional “hallmark” view, which naturally makes you feel left out if you’re single. I have a new view now and I’m going to celebrate those I love this week, those God has used to help get me through this difficult time. I am so thankful for those special people God has placed in my life and I am thankful for your words of wisdom.

  234. Grace Misina February 10, 2014 at 9:09 pm - Reply

    Woot! Woot! I love the fact that I don’t need anyone to validate me or fix me!! I am complete, restored and mended by the One who finished the work on the Cross for me!! I will therefore completely trust Him Alone-come what may:)

    God Bless You Mandisa!! xx

  235. Brenda February 10, 2014 at 9:11 pm - Reply

    After years of thinking I always needed to have a boyfriend, I have been unattached now for 3 years and am completely content with it. I refuse to settle and don’t want to be married just for the sake of being married. Although I would love to be married and have someone to grow old with, I believe God’s plan is what is best for me and, if that means I am to remain single, so be it!

  236. LtotheYN February 10, 2014 at 9:30 pm - Reply

    This post inspired me to blog about my own singleness and awesomeness this week! I am so proud of my single self and respecting myself and all the hard work I put into the family of two (yes that is a family) of my daughter and myself ๐Ÿ™‚

  237. Ashley February 10, 2014 at 9:33 pm - Reply

    Sometimes I’m content in my singleness, and sometimes I am not. I’m almost 27, and I’ve never been close to marriage. Thankfully God has used Facebook to connect me to other single gals (like Mandisa) to encourage me to pray for my future husband and to be content in my singleness. Lately, I’ve been working on me. Will I be the right girl for that special guy? What flaws do I need to work on/let God change in me?
    I know I’ve been able to do soo much because I am single (soon to be 3 mission trips, making lifetime friends, etc.), so I praise him for that. I still look forward to the day that I do marry “Mr. Right” and have a few kiddos. Looking forward to the rest of the blog posts!

  238. kay February 10, 2014 at 9:37 pm - Reply

    Wow what a great Idea. I think that there is way to much emphasis on gifts on Valentines instead of spending time with people. I would rather be single and able to spend time with those widowed or alone in a care center. I have a dog and we go and spend time with those people who really need to be loved.

  239. Katie February 10, 2014 at 9:49 pm - Reply

    Thank you for you daily blog this week. I have really been struggling with my singleness lately. This time each year is hard for me to remain optimistic, but then I think of how great God has been and how He has worked other things out in the past, and I know that at some point He will take care of my desire to have a family.

    I have been blessed to read your posts on Twitter and Facebook, as well as Mandy Hale’s! I love her current book and have found some great quotes that I live by. I hope that you will continue to share your journey with us because it is so encouraging!

  240. Eunice Lai February 10, 2014 at 10:01 pm - Reply

    Really love your songs! Have been following Mandy for about a year and her posts and book are such an encouragement and help! They never cease to help to keep things in perspective. May God bless both of you!

  241. Angela Coomer February 10, 2014 at 10:01 pm - Reply

    This was great to read. After my divorce i didn’t think I could trust God and I tried to tapestries im my own hands. Thank Jesus for His unfailing love and grace , He has put a song in my heart once again. I am learning to love my life and the place I am in God. He has taught me so much this year and I know His plans for me are better than I could ever dream up.I applaud all of the single people out there and pray that we all seek Jesus first and all of these things will be added. There is so much safety in trusting Gods timing. Thank you Madness for your ministry. I took my nine year old daughter to jer first concert to see you im Cincinnati this past December. She loves you, blessings. You are so beautiful!

  242. The Starter | Southern Proper February 10, 2014 at 10:06 pm - Reply

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  243. APOSTLE DJ WIGGINS DD February 10, 2014 at 10:10 pm - Reply

    I do not struggle with being single because I understand, every season has its purpose and its not poison. I just think as a pastor having the love of a wife would really help build stronger lives, as we lead by example. As a couple we can birth a family together. I have been through and now its time to come into! God gives us the grace no matter where we are single or married. Yes you have the grace for your moment!

    Mandisa I would marry you any moment. A woman who loves God better than anything can be trusted. I always ask the question: Can I trust you with my life?

  244. Robin N. February 10, 2014 at 10:24 pm - Reply

    I really loved Mandy’s #11….in the waiting, God is preparing me for the one I’m waiting for! I have come to the point in my life (divorced at 47 and still being single at 51) that I need to live my life in the here and now, whether I am single or if God brings someone into my life. I cannot waste away the rest of my life lamenting the fact that I am not a part of a couple. I am trying to focus on living the life God wants me to live right now and if He has someone for me, He will bring us together. I saw a phrase recently that said something like ‘I want to be with man who is following God so closely that the only reasons he finds me is because God told him to look up, there she is.” Until then, my focus should be on serving God in the best way I can and to find my fulfillment in that!

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  246. Misty February 10, 2014 at 10:39 pm - Reply

    Thank you for being you and for being so honest and up front with something that so many of us are struggling with. Its always nice to know your not alone on your walk (both with God and with finding that someone he picked for us). Chin up, there its a plan, we just don’t have the details. Thanks you again for being your special self!

  247. Taryn February 10, 2014 at 11:10 pm - Reply

    Thank you for posting this! I’m a 29-year-old single, whose friends and peers all seem to be getting married and having babies these days. It gets hard, especially when they talk about pregnancy and childbirth and raising kids. I wish I could say I handle my singleness gently and in the right way by giving it to God…but sometimes my emotions get the best of me ๐Ÿ™‚ I found your Spotify playlist when you posted it to FB awhile back, and it has gotten me through some tough days and I just wanted to say thank you for being open and honest. As someone who doesn’t have any single friends around, it’s nice to be reminded there are others out there, even if I don’t really “know” them!

  248. Julia February 10, 2014 at 11:12 pm - Reply

    Thank you for this! I struggle so much with being single & S.A.D is the worst day for it. It seems like couples come out of the wood work & its thrown in your face that you are alone. You have no idea how much thing blog is helpful.

  249. LaDawn February 10, 2014 at 11:14 pm - Reply

    I absolutely love everything you have to say, Mandisa! I follow your every post on Facebook & as a single mother, you are an inspiration! I love how you say you are waiting for your Boaz. I often say I am waiting for my Joseph. As a single mother of two, my youngest son who is 7 years old has never known his biological father. He prays often for God to give me a boyfriend/husband so he can have a dad. I say I’m praying for my Joseph because how much love he must have had for God, for Mary, and for a child that wasn’t his child. He loved Jesus as his own & I pray God will send a man in my life who has that much love to give. With your Singleness Awareness Week it is making me somewhat excited about a week/day that is normally depressing & I thank you so much for that! God Bless You!

  250. Mitch Coladilla February 10, 2014 at 11:18 pm - Reply

    I have stumbled upon this hashtag last year, #SingleAwarenessMoment and I was hooked by good words and appreciation as Single!

    I always pray for God’s guidance and I know that I am pushing hard to achieve my dreams. I have been into so many struggles in meeting people but I am not giving up of finding what God has planned for me ๐Ÿ™‚

  251. Cindy Harrington February 10, 2014 at 11:59 pm - Reply

    I go back and forth with my feelings on my singleness. Sometimes I am fine with being 42 and “still single”. Other times I feel like I will never find love, and I just want to have a huge pity-party! But no matter what state of mind I am in, it always, always helps me to go back to Psalm 139. I read the whole chapter again. And then again. And maybe even one more time if it’s an especially trying time. It reminds me of who I am in Christ, regardless of what the world around me says. It reminds me of God’s infinite love for me. Before my life even began, He knew all the days of my life. He knew every heartbreak, every sin, every tear, every joy, all of it. And still He created me and loves me. This is so amazing. For all I know I may never get married, and if that is God’s will, then that’s ok with me. The key is to trust God. In ALL things.

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  253. Amanda February 11, 2014 at 12:21 am - Reply

    I want to win a book

  254. Kelly R Stoneham February 11, 2014 at 4:30 am - Reply

    I can’t say I am content in my singleness, but I do know that God has blessed me in it! I spend a lot of time being active in ministries at my church. I’m a youth group leader, I help with some of our women’s ministries and I sing on the worship team. I praise God for the multitude of blessings He has poured into my life through these activities and the relationships with my brothers and sisters in Christ that have developed through them. God is so GOOD! And while I still struggle with being single and pray for contentness until He sends the one He has planned for me, I know without question that He is using my time in mighty way! ๐Ÿ™‚

  255. Laurel Wycoff February 11, 2014 at 5:40 am - Reply

    All 14 reasons spoke to me! I was just thinking the other day, in contemplating “my singleness,” that God will bring me a man who will compliment my life, not control it. My last 2 relationships have been about a man controlling a woman and not about loving me.

  256. lora winebarger February 11, 2014 at 6:03 am - Reply

    I am 52 years single, and this was not the life I had planned but this is where I am . At age 38 I decided that I would ask God to be all that I needed. And he has been when I need help he sends someone. When I am lonely he has someone call me. In all ways he has been my everything. Sometimes I still wish that I had a family or maybe a husband to take out the trash but I have survived. And i know that I am loved

  257. Kelly Guyton February 11, 2014 at 6:46 am - Reply

    I am 36 and single. I lost my fiance in a car crash back in 2006. For 8 years now I have struggled on all holidays feeling so alone. But I learned that I am never alone because God is always by my side. In these last couple of years I have developed a relationship with God like I have never had before.I’m waiting patiently on GOD to send who he has for me. But as I wait I still continue to do the will of GOD and I’m trusting and I know that God will soon give me the desires of my heart. Because I have never seen the righteous forsaken.Your beautiful song praying for you touched me it was a true inspiration to me. I thank God that I saw this web page because I see so many others waiting and praying for their Boaz. As I wait I allow God to work on me and make me a better person. May God bless you. Looking forward to reading that wonderful book We serve an awesome on time God..

  258. Artist News February 11, 2014 « February 11, 2014 at 7:48 am - Reply

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  259. RielyRae February 11, 2014 at 10:58 am - Reply

    I love this, I love that you’re bringing up singleness each and every day so that we can be reminded of how wonderful it is to be romanced by God. Like its just so cool! I’m 19, but after traveling the world with The Lord for a year of my life I’m blessed to be more mature in my wisdom, and more childlike in his arms. If there’s one thing Abbas shown me in the pas year and forever more (even when it’s mega hard to accept it) is that he loves us with a crazy awesomely intimate love. And he is totally preparing us, every step, for the calling upon our lives. If marriage falls into his game plan, then that’s a calling as well ๐Ÿ™‚ no doubt he’s been preparing me, not only for marriage but to be a mommy too. I fell in love with a little boy in South Africa who I was mommy to for 4 months. I am no doubt going back for him when The Lord says go. As he teaches me to love selflessly more and more he prepares me for the gifts ahead of me. He long to be our everything, to lavish his love upon us and for our hearts to be still in knowing He is all we need. And no doubt it’s hard sometimes! No doubt there are days I throw a fit in his arms because I’m not satisfied, I’m bitter, I’m exhausted, I want more– but it’s there that he just pulls me closer. It’s there that I find peace leaning back against his heartbeat… It in his arms I again find satisfaction. It’s there that he teaches me to pray with everything I’ve got, for both of my guys… My baby, and my husband, wherever in the world he is. It’s there that until God alone brings him into my life, I can breathe deep, And press in to the love of my Jesus– a love that satisfies, overflows, and is more than enough.

  260. Angela S February 11, 2014 at 12:04 pm - Reply

    I read Mandy’s blog and I think I need to put those things in perspective I have never been married let alone had a boyfriend which I struggle with my fealings on not just Valentine’s day but every time I see a happy couple. I start thinking of how I would love a relationship like that. I sometimes cry when I pray to God to send me that special someone I know he hears my prayers and is telling me to wait that the special person or even I am not ready for this step yet and it will come when its in Gods timing .

  261. Dinecia February 11, 2014 at 12:06 pm - Reply

    This is an amazing post and you inspire me so much! I told my friends the other day that I’m “officially adding ‘meet Mandisa’ to my bucket list”. I love your honesty and your love for our Lord. In a lot of ways you remind me of me and encourage me so much. I would love to sit down and talk about life with you!

    I spent last night talking to one of my friends about your post yesterday, shared a couple of your songs and a bit of your testimony with her. She doesn’t listen to a lot of Christian music and had never heard of you. She loves you now! We committed to reading Mandy’s first book together and will be getting the second when it comes out.

    I am 28 and have never had sex or have never had a serious romantic relationship. I’ve never “kissed a boy” nor have I been on a real date. Sometimes I’m ashamed to admit it. I’ve had opportunities BUT I choose to honor God in all that I do. If a dating relationship or being involved with a guy is not pleasing I can not allow myself to do it. If it’s not God’s will I can’t. SURE temptation is there and it’s easy to give in but, I chose to honor God and my future husband by remaining pure. Many people look at me strange or think I’m crazy but, I’m ok with that.

    They’ll just have to look at me crazy. God has, is , and will CONTINUE to knock my socks off by blessing me with a great life as a result of His love, and His and my faithfulness to our relationship. He is faithful and is a rewarder of them that diligently seek HIM!

    Prayers for you my sister!

    I actually wrote a blog post about it a couple of weeks ago. ๐Ÿ™‚

  262. Abby S February 11, 2014 at 1:43 pm - Reply

    I LOVE this! Embracing the single-hood with a new perspective! No better way to celebrate love than loving yourself!

  263. Pamela Cruz February 11, 2014 at 6:02 pm - Reply

    This week used to be particularly tough for me for several reasons. I am a middle aged single woman. Yes I have been married and I was actually married on Valentines day, adding another dimension of potential sadness to the day for me.

    I have sought love all of my life in so many ways, In the bottom of a bottle, in drugs and in relationships.. It was not until I completely surrendered my life, my heart and my desires to Jesus Christ, that I finally positioned HIm in His rightful place in my heart. Then I found that love I had always longed for.
    God placed eternity in our hearts and our hearts are wrestless until they rest in Him. Spending my life trying to stuff everything into that God shaped hole in me was a set up for huge disappointment and repeated heartbreaks. Expecting a human to be my savior was setting that person up for failure as well.. I no longer need a Savior, I have one In Christ! Sweet relief to those people in my life as I remove those unrealistic expectations and just allow them to be.
    I have always heard the term “you can’t love others until you love yourself” and I really struggled with that. However, as I have sought God and His Kingdom first, He began showing me who I am in Him. “Then you shall Know the Truth and the Truth shall set you Free (John 8:32) What a revelation in commiting to knowing Jesus, who is The Truth (John 14:6) and in seeking Him, I found who I truly am and that Truth has also set me free to just be me. Righteous, Chosen, Loved, DAughter of the King. Worth Waiting for!
    I have chosen to remain celebate until I am married again and at my age, I often get ridiculed, laughed at, judged and made fun of, mostly by other Christians.
    Father God says in Psalm 34:7 That if we “Delight ourselves in Him, that He will give us the desires of our hearts!” I bank on Abba Daddys promises
    Daily I seek Him first and I release those things I think are my hearts desires. He knows what is best for me. I will rest my heart in Him and if He has plans (Jeremiah 29:11) for an amazing husband for me in my future, I will be more prepared to receive the gift because I finally love me!
    The enemy can try to take me down into self pity or remembering past hurts on Valentines day. But I choose Gods truths over those feelings and I choose love every day, not just one day a year.

  264. Amy February 11, 2014 at 11:19 pm - Reply

    I see my current single status as an excellent opportunity to focus on my One True Love: Jesus Christ.

  265. Sharon Valchar February 11, 2014 at 11:52 pm - Reply

    My heart now goes out to singles like never before. I lost my husband of thirty-two years to cancer last January on his sixty-first birthday. He is with the Lord, praise His name! I was eighteen when we married and I’m fifty-one now. After a year, I am doing better with the grief, but the loneliness is overwhelming at times. I do understand how blessed I am to have had a godly loving marriage. Some days I feel sure I could and would Never want another husband. Other days the thought of never having someone to hold me, share walks hand in hand with, snuggle up to, or be able to know I have been the one he turned to for all the same….I feel almost desperate in my loneliness. I feel to young to think of myself as a widow? I don’t feel like I fit with the other widowed ladies in my church, who are all around ten to twenty years older than me, though they are very kind in trying to include me in their circle. I am determined to just keep trusting Jesus inall tnings, and I will be praying more knowledgeably for singles ๐Ÿ™‚

  266. Denise February 12, 2014 at 8:21 am - Reply

    Oh Mandisa!! Thank you so much for this!!! I am a 25 year old who has struggled for many years with being single only to realize in the past year how to be truly grateful for where I am at. I even have plans to go out on a date with myself on Saturday!! I also bought myself flowers yesterday why be deprived of your faviorte flowers being on sale,right!? Thank you for your encouragement!! I love your song Praying for You it’s been a great reminder to pray not just for my future husband but myself as well!!

  267. Amy Marx February 12, 2014 at 6:57 pm - Reply

    Thank you all so much for sharing. I feel encouraged just reading the comments. I have been a single mom for 19 years. I left a violent and abusive marriage when my son was a baby and my daughter was a preschooler. It was the hardest and scariest thing that I have ever done in my life. I had been so beaten down emotionally that I had no idea who I was and I was afraid we would not survive because I had been told repeatedly that I would not survive without him. I gave my life back to Jesus right before I left and I knew that I needed healing. I chose to live my life in purity before God and for my children. I wanted to be a godly example for my kids. It has been so hard but very doable through Christ. I have been receiving the healing needed for my tattered and abused heart. I have found it difficult to find someone that makes me feel special. I have had my ups and downs but I do not regret my choices to live completely sold out for Christ and to not have premarital sex. Sometimes I have felt alone in this choice. I have had doctors and other professionals and family yell me that my life is sad because I am waiting. I now know that I am not as alone as I thought. Thank you all and may you be greatly blessed as you each wait on The Lord!

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  269. clare February 14, 2014 at 11:21 am - Reply

    Nice! God bless u more.

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