Single Appreciation Week-Day 1

If we have been Twitter friends for over 2 years you may have seen me use the hashtag #SingleAwarenessMoment more than once. Similarly, I would also refer February 14th as “Single Awareness Day” (aka S.A.D). These were terms that I used frequently, but last year God did a work in my life that led me to view my singleness differently. I was no longer sulking, asking, “why not me”, and considering myself as incomplete because I was not married. Instead, I began to see myself, and this stage of life I am in from God’s perspective. When I started doing that, my outlook changed! Don’t get me wrong…there are still moments when I struggle as a 30+, never-been-married woman. The difference is that I am learning how to bring those feelings to Lord in prayer, and He is teaching me trust Him. He is also showing me the many benefits of being single (like being able to be completely devoted to Jesus in my time and money, or having my bed, Rufus all to myself!)

Since God has ushered me into this new landscape of freedom, I have expressed my feelings about my contentment in several ways. First, I recorded a song for my future husband and put it on my latest album, Overcomer. I wrote “Praying for You” with Chris August (and just to be clear, even though he is single, we are just friends!) LOL!

“Praying for You” (along with 14 other tracks) is also on this free #SingleAppreciation Spotify playlist I created. Let me know what you think!

In addition to music, I have also written a few blogs about being single: Here is one I wrote about how I pray for my husband specifically, and here is another I wrote for my friend, Priscilla Shirer’s blog about how I am not only praying for “Mr. Right”, but also working to become “Mrs. Right”.

Last year I created a Galentines Event for single women. We had a blast! You can read some of the comments from those who attended or watched online here. I had hoped to make this an annual event and do it again this year, but my schedule got the better of me. I do hope to do some sort of live Ustream broadcast on Friday, though. I’ll be in Minnesota for the Hits Deep Tour that night, so it’ll depend on how good my wifi network will be there. Stay tuned…

In the meantime, I thought I would make this week #SingleAppreciationWeek for all of my single sisters and brothers out there. Be sure to check back for a new blog about being single each day this week leading up to “Single Appreciation Day”…oh wait! That still spells “S.A.D”. Hmm…let me work on that! After you read the blog, leave a comment for a chance to win prizes that day! Hey! If married folks can give gifts to celebrate love, so can we! 😉

Each day I want to introduce you to one of my fabulous friends who is living life abundantly as a single woman…sorry fellas! I know you may want to hear from some guys, too. Try asking Chris August, Brandon Heath (even though he is engaged now), or Anthony Evans (I know what you’re thinking, but nope…we’re just friends, too!) to hook you up!

Today I want you to meet blogger, author, and all-around sassy sister, Mandy Hale, aka “The Single Woman“! I realize that “introduce” may not be the right word for many of you, considering she has almost 600 million Twitter followers and 700 million Facebook likes! Still, if you are not familiar with The Single Woman’s awesome platform she uses to inspire single women to live their best lives and to never, ever settle, you can thank me later.

Right now, Mandy is counting down “14 Reasons to Celebrate Your Singleness this Valentine’s Day” on her blog. Click here to read this (I love them all, but 11-14 are my favorites!)

Vday1After you read Mandy’s blog, come back here and leave a comment for a chance to win an ADVANCED copy of her new book, I’ve Never Been to Vegas, But My Luggage has: Mishaps and Miracles on the Road to Happily Ever After. It releases March 11, but Mandy will send the winner her book before you can even buy it! (And if you don’t win, don’t worry! You can pre-order your copy now. Just click on the title above! Or if you’re hankering for something now, I can highly recommend her last book, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass.)

To win, or simply to share your heart, leave a comment about some ways you can focus on the many forms of love God offers us, regardless of our marital status this Valentine’s Day. How are you feeling about this week? Are you content in your singleness, and if not, do you believe it is possible for you to be?

“I’ve learned by now to be quite content whatever my circumstances. I’m just as happy with little as with much, with much as with little. I’ve found the recipe for being happy whether full or hungry, hands full or hands empty. Whatever I have, wherever I am, I can make it through anything in the One who makes me who I am.”-Philippians 4:11-13 (MSG)


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  1. Jennifer Shields says:

    I am a single mom of three boys through adoption. I am usually content with singleness because I have been blessed with my children. Also my middle son explained I was to tall to get married:). Thanks for this dun and single affirming blog.

  2. Leslie says:

    God has me where He wants me to grow. I’m happier now being single again, then being married to someone who didn’t want to love me, but I knew that God always loves me no matter where I’m at, whether I’m single, dating or married. Thank you, Madisa for sharing. I thank God everyday for you music to minister to my heart, because I AM an Overcomer!

  3. Pat Davis says:

    Hey, I think this is a fabulous idea. Singles need encouragement. But, then again we are the bride of Christ, so have a great day!

  4. Deena.White says:

    Thank You both Mandy and Mandisa for the honesty, the transparency and the encouragement you bring. I have been single for a year at the age of 45 that was a scary thing to face. What i have begun to discover is that God has blessed me with a rational mind, a strong will and the ability to do a million things i didnt know I could. I have also been able to reach out and help others through prayer and listening and my favorite part is that the drama and heartache of struggling to hold on to a relationship that need to be let go of took up so much of my time and energy that i was held captive to it. Now I am free to be the hands and feet of Jesus as He leads me to places I might never have noticed that I was needed. God bless you both!

  5. Ambur says:

    I used to struggle w/ singleness, but I have had a chance to watch some amazing godly couples and how their relationships are solid because of their relationships with God. I’ve also watched some couples who try and do it all in their own strength and how they have suffered. I’ve chosen to trust in God’s highest and best for my life, whether single or married. I believe right now I am in his highest and best for now and find peace in that.

  6. Stephanie Chamberlain says:

    Just like many people I am the lone single person in my group of married with children. For many years I struggled with insecurities as the married folks did stuff with other married couples. I often was left out. Then the children came along. It wasn’t easy but I realized I could spend time with all of my friends and their children a lot more bc I did not have obligations. So now “Aunt Stephanie” takes her show on the road to visit those sweet babies a lot more while giving their mommies and daddies some time to them selves if they want it. Without God guiding me I would still be wallowing in that miry pit of loneliness.

  7. Stacy Holub-Thames says:

    I want to love me before I can love We!

  8. Sheila Allison says:

    I think this is great inspiration for all the single folk, and widows and widowers out there.

  9. Raenette Burke says:

    I love the single comments. Especially number one and eleven to fourteen. They really speak to me. What a great inspiration.

  10. Brenna Drakeford says:

    You could change it to S.M.I.L.E. (Single and My Incredible Life is Exciting)

  11. Deborah Mekosky says:

    I have been a widow for 14 long years. I tried the dating game. But man it was really lame. The Men I sought because my late husband said you should not be alone. The heart ache was miserable and finally I had courage enough to say STOP.

    Lonely? NO way. I have 4 beautiful grandsons, 3 wonderful sons, and two beautiful daughters in love. There are days that still feel empty without my husband. But there is a glimpse of him in each of my grandsons.

    So on valentines day I may not have a spouse, a boyfriend, or a male friend even. But I do have the joy of family, the love of a Savior, and a peace that can only come from the man upstairs.

    I am not saying NO to a new love. I am saying yes to the woman inside who has found a different kind of joy and a freedom that keeps me happy and not lifting up any rock looking for LOVE. It will find me when and if God ordains it. Otherwise, joy is found right here and now!

  12. Lisa Orsborn says:

    Mandy’s 14 reasons to love my singleness this Valentine’s Day is exactly what I needed! I am a single, divorced woman and mom of 3 who I am trying to teach that I don’t NEED another person to marry right now. That I am ok with being single and it’s OK for them to be ok with me being single. I am teaching them through me how to love themselves and have a great relationship with God!

  13. April Duncan says:

    Dear Mandisa,
    I’m a single mom of two gorgeous daughters. They’re 15 and 20 and need a mom who will show them that YOU were given life by God to do many great things, and being someone’s girlfriend or wife is only part of it the plan. Not the ENTIRE plan. I urge them to identify themselves through God, as I am now trying to do after 20 years of marriage. God has shown me that as long as I keep my eyes on Him, that He will see me through any event, great or small. So I look at my life like this – no matter how much turbulence I experience, God has placed me in first class – complete safety and luxury. The plane will not fall out of the sky, He’s piloting it. I can rest easily in His grace and guidance, learning along the journey about who He wants me to become. Therefore, when the right man comes along, that man will have to ask the Lord for my heart, because my heart is wrapped up in Him. I am happy within Him. Always. God is good all the time. Blessings and love to you! ~ April

  14. Sunshine Button says:

    I love all the quotes, but 4 stands out- I walk MY path, make my own life and am able to focus on my life. Granted, as a single mom of 3 beautiful kids, its hard. But I’d rather raise them alone than make another mistake like their dad. I know that God has something wonderful planned for us!

  15. Linda says:

    Mandisa, you are an inspiration to all single women. I have a new found attitude about being single for so long after reading your post and listening to your music. You are such a beautiful blessing in the lives of so many. Thank you!! <3.

  16. Karen Peterson-Johnson says:

    Im a 59 year old Christian single woman. Divorced twice..married 28 yearsthe first time and 4 years the second time.I’m actively involved in Celebrate Recovery@ my church.its a group that Saddleback church started for ” hurts, habits, and hangups..I help lead worship music there. .I do Zuma to your music..you are a remarkable gifted woman.Thanks for sharing yourself..

  17. Silka Boone says:

    Mandisa, What and inspiration you are to me and so many others!! you are a shining example of a godly womaN!! God bless you great woman of God!!

  18. Jamie McGrew says:

    I love all of the 14 reasons, but my favorites are #1 and #14. Great reminders to be brave and sparkle!

  19. Lisa Tomes says:

    I’m learning to enjoy my singleness with God. It’s not always easy. I’m a single again woman and miss the cuddling and help a companion can bring.

  20. amanda says:

    I was in a 5 yr relationship wit a man i loved so much. But something had happened to us we have struggled to make it right but nothing seemed to work. We looked towards god to help us and it seems I have found god in my heart and he didnt. God showed me he wasn’t right for me. Being single has been great I keep god in my life waiting til he brings me the man that is right for me.

  21. Renee Miller says:

    I am in love with everything you do in life and in songs 🙂 My Grand daughter turned me on to you she is 12 years old and I pray she always knows her worth in this world. She deserves to be the happiest girl on earth, If you ever meet her you would think the same way as I. She is very brave to be a Christian in school and out.

  22. kathi says:

    I love Mandy Hale. I’m totally content with being single until God tells me it’s time to make a change.

  23. Mary Jones says:

    Mandisa, I love everything about you. Thank you for this. Your words, your music, your faith…they always brighten my day!

  24. kathy says:

    What beautiful words you’ve definately given me something to think about being single also. I do struggle with it but not in the sense that it’s because I’m single because I choose to be single after a serious of traumatic events but they are definately words to think about. This book would be well worth the read

  25. Angel S. says:

    Love the idea for the week. I checked out Mandy’s blog. Great list! I am writing as a mom. Our son is in college and is really feeling the S.A.D. I will have many tings to offer him after reading yours and Mandy’s blog. He isn’tlooking for marriage yet, but also isn’t willing to date just so he isn’t alone. I believe I can see where God is working in his life and how He is pruning him. The best thing I can do for himis continue to pray for him!

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